Dealing with Jealousy When Swinging
When you first start out in swinging, then you may find that you
become jealous of your partner during or after the experience.
Is this normal to feel like this? Or to not feel jealous at all?
If you've taken your time to discuss your swinging desires, then
you may never have to deal with this. But it's best you know a
little either way.
Talking it out
The easiest rule to jealousy in swinging is to talk about it. As
soon as you begin to feel the jealousy, you want to sit down
with your partner and talk about what concerns you. Many times,
one person in the relationship feels jealous because the other
'did more' than they did. And it's not a competition, but you
might feel that your partner and whomever they were swinging
with suddenly have a deeper connection.
A lot of times, jealousy also happens because the relationship
was shaky to begin with. If you and your partner are having a
lot of fights, or just aren't communicating well, then you have
to be careful. If you have a moment of feeling jealous, sit down
with your partner and discuss EXACTLY what made you
uncomfortable. Maybe it will just take changing your personal
rules for each other to help with the feelings of jealousy.
Some couple save kissing for just each other and won't allow it
between their partner and someone else. This is just one of many
ideas to show commitment to each other. But when you stop to
think about it, you and your partner are always leaving to go
home with each other, even after a wild and exciting sexual
experience with someone else. Some couples find that they become
even more confident in their relationship.
Of course, it should go without saying that agreeing completely
into trying swinging is a prerequisite to swinging. If one
partner wasn't too keen in the first place, then you may find
that accusations and jealousy pop up a lot more.
Talk the possibility of this out before you even start swinging.
Why you might not feel jealous
Swinging is just so amazing that you may not even feel jealous.
And that's okay too. Some experienced swingers feel that their
relationship is enhanced by the swinging extras. Knowing that
they can share something sexual with another person or another
couple can lead to greater intimacy and communication in other
areas as well.
So a lot of couples just don't feel jealous. It's actually quite
erotic to watch your partner be pleased by someone else or
pleasure someone other than yourself. Trust me.
You may also have such a strong relationship already that
swinging is just another adventure that you're going on. And
there's not a smidge of jealousy because you both wanted to try
swinging out anyways.
Swinging is an eye-opening (amongst other things) experience
that can show you the strengths as well as the flaws in your
current relationship. In most cases, however, swinging is a
positive experience that will enrich a relationship as well as
your sexual experience.