How Soon Is Too Soon To Say "I Love You"

The exchange of the words "I love you" mark a big milestones in any relationship. But both men and women sometimes find it difficult to say "I love you" because they are afraid of what the other might say. A client told me he had tried many times to say the words but somehow could not bring himself to say them. When he finally said 'I love you', she replied 'It's about time'. Another one told me when he first said the words, she had tears running down her cheeks, and seeing how happy she was encouraged him to say the words more often. But after a while, the three magic words had lost their magic. He'd say, 'I love you' and she'd come back with 'Yeah, right'. So when should you tell the other person you're totally under their spell? I've read and heard other Relationships "experts" say that "I love you" should come only on the tenth date or after you've dated someone for four months. Personally, I think that is all bull shit - excuse my language. Saying "I love you" is a very personal experience, and every person has their own different timetable for saying it. Some people say it right away with a new person, while others prefer to wait a while to be 150% certain that they truly love the person they are saying it to. However, it is usually a bad idea to tell someone you love them on the first date or even second date. The person might think that you say it to everyone you date and the reality is, on the first date, you don't really know a thing about this person. The first date might have been great but there is a ninety-nine-point-ninety-nine percent chance that this person may not always be all well dressed, well mannered and charming. Wait at least until you know more about the person. If after thinking it through you are convinced that you know enough about this person, mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the moment. Easing into the moment by letting the other person know how much they mean to you and how they make your life richer, and speaking clearly while holding eye contact can make it a little less nerve-wrecking. However, the moment should not be choreographed to the T. Let a little spontaneity rule, flow with the emotions that come to surface. Some people find it easier to write a love letter instead. That way, they can pour out their heart's content without choking in it. Just remember that sooner or later you'll have to say the words to the person's face. But not all people have difficulty with saying 'I love you. For some it's kind of like habit like saying "thank you" or "good-bye" after you talk to them. And I do not necessarily think there is anything wrong with it. After all it might be the last thing that you ever get a chance to say to someone else. There is this guy I met online. This is like a long time ago, like another life time. I was young and hot-blooded and finding love on the internet was just becoming the in-thing to do. Anyways, this guy would end every chat session or long distance call with "I love you." I found it a little disconcerting but I kind of just went along with it. One evening I surprised myself by responding with "I love you, too", only to hang up wondering.. " I love you too?" I don't even know the man's postal code! Uttering those three little words like you mean them to somebody you actually deeply care for doesn't only light up the other person's world, but yours too. The key point here is to be sincere about it. And saying 'I love you' a lot is not an indicator of whether one really loves. Some people use it as a way to manipulate you - like getting into your pants or you bank book. It is important to pay attention to how what they say makes you feel and if they really mean it. How is the person saying it? Does it come out like they really mean it or does it feel to you like they are saying it because they think they need to? Listen to your gut feeling and do not try to ignore it because your body picks up on non-verbal cues that your head may miss. And, if you're questioning if this person truly loves you, then maybe something isn't quite right or the relationship isn't working for you. This may sound like la-la-land clich