What are Swinging Clubs?
When being on the computer just doesn't do enough for you, then
you may want to venture out of the house and find some swinging
in person. Unfortunately, not every city has a swingers club.
But there are ways to find out who's in the scene, and where you
can go. You'd be surprised how much you can find when you ask.
Finding your swinging environment
The Internet has become the easiest way to find swinging
resources in your local community. You can go into any search
engine and find whatever you pleasure is. Actually, you may want
to get specific as to your fetishes and fantasies. Why not find
EXACTLY what you're looking for?
Once you've gotten a list of clubs and other swinging locales,
then you want to grab your partner and make some phone calls.
You need to know what to expect and get all of your personal
questions answers. And interestingly enough, a lot of clubs will
want to talk to the both of you to see what your intentions are
and what their rules state. Many clubs only accept married
couples, for example.
A lot of beginning couples will also want to ask if the
environment is no-pressure or not. You don't want to be too
overwhelmed at first. And if the phone call is difficult or you
realize that you're having trouble communicating, then you may
realize that you're not ready.
But let's say that you are.
What to expect
All swinging clubs are different and have different rules. You
want to find out ahead of time what the dress code is and if
there's anything that isn't allowed. Men will usually want to
avoid jeans and sneakers, while women want to dress to thrill.
Be sure to bring your identification with you as well. Some
clubs have theme nights and women can have a good time matching
their outfits to these fun and creative nights.
Once you're in, each club is different. If you're in a
pressure-free club, then you can pretty much do whatever feels
right to you. Maybe you just want to watch the 'festivities' for
the evening. Maybe you want to participate. Just don't feel like
you have to.
Something to remember
If you feel pressured, then you're in a bad situation. You want
to have fun your first few times in a swingers club, and then
take baby steps to the next, even more hot and exciting level.
Being talked into something that you don't want to do is not
sexy and makes for uncomfortable next mornings. If you don't
want to do something, then say so. No one should question that
or make you feel bad for saying no.
Most swinging clubs are very good at helping you with any
questions that you might have and have employees available if
you're just not sure about something. If you're ready to try
swinging, then this can be a great way to meet other couples
with the same interests and within a safe and supportive
environment.