Arguing the Right Way!
All couples have had their fair share of arguments, some are
constructive and others completely destructive. Is arguing a
healthy building block to a lasting relationship?, that all
depends on how you pick and wage your battles. Next time you
find verbal exchange heating up follow these easy guidelines to
help turn your argument into a constructive discussion.
First things first: Compromise. If you find each of you wants
something different, meet each other halfway. Secondly don't
sweat the small stuff, everyone has their own way of doing
things.
There is no sense in fighting for the sake of fighting, usually
a more serious issue is at the root of most petty arguments. If
you do have a hang up over some recent upset then get it out of
your system. Sit down with your partner to have a respectful
debate or write it out in a letter to express exactly what you
want to get off your chest.
Always stress the "I" in your argument which is much less
accusatory then using "You". As in "I feel frustrated" rather
then "You always frustrate me". If you get overheated during an
argument and are afraid of saying something you might later
regret, leave the situation and take a breather. You can always
go to bed angry just make an effort to discuss things when you
wake up. Usually having that time to analyze the situation puts
everything into perspective and allows you to more clearly state
your case.
Lastly, always be willing to agree to disagree. Respect your
partner's opinion and openly share your own, don't let your need
to control manifest into continuous conflicts. When the smoke
clears, be the first to stand up and apologize, and flowers can
definitely smooth matters over!
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