Men's killer Dating Mistake!
"Men's Killer Dating Mistake." and how to avoid it! By Mick Jones
Once you are good at meeting women online, or anywhere for that
matter... The next step is to be able to qualify the lady
quickly. By qualify I mean to decide whether to see her again
and allow her into your life. This is a very important skill for
many reasons.
Here is the Killer mistake a lot of men make!
They spend too much time with a woman they should have
"disqualified" 20 minutes after they met her. Mainly because
they're glad to meet any woman who shows an interest in them.
What's the best way to avoid the pain and hassle of a bad
partner?
To be able to disqualify a future partner! Not easy I know.
See, the men that are good with women, don't waste their time
and energy on someone they instinctively know is going to be
trouble. These guys have good qualifying skills, being able to
move on quickly from un-responsive or unsuitable women. Then
spending their time with only highly qualified dates. This is
'effective time management' for producing the best results!
So how do you qualify you ask?
Mmmmhhh, good question and a skill not practiced by many.
Let's look at it and give an example.
What men good with women do is to have clearly defined criteria
and as soon as they identify a trait that is outside of their
criteria, they politely discontinue interest and move on.
You need to know what your desired outcome is,
Whether it is finding one lady for a permanent one on one
committed relationship. Or you may want adventure and good times
without too much commitment. If you don't decide your desired
outcome, you can't define your ideal dating partner. Once you do
know your outcome, however, the next step is to define the
criteria of the "ideal dating partner."
Once you have that criteria defined, you want to as Quickly as
possible find out if a woman fits that criteria. If she doesn't,
then you need to spend your time identifying those who do. This
is where most men make the 'Killer mistake.'
They stick with a woman they should "disqualify," hoping she'll
develop the traits they're looking for. If she doesn't fit your
criteria, decide and move on quickly. Then spend your valuable
time and energy finding one who does.
Heres a common example. If you're looking to be married, and
you're dating a woman who says, "I just want to have some fun
and meet people, and if it goes further, we'll see what
happens," then you need to disqualify her. She's looking for fun
and adventure, not marriage, so she'll be hard work to change to
the traits you are looking for. And waste your valuable time...
Fair enough? So you'll need to find and spend time with the type
of women that suits your criteria. Write your criteria down and
look at it BEFORE you send kisses, winks and emails at online
dating sites.
If you just want to date and meet as many women as possible,
which I did when I first went online to get experience, Your
criteria can be small. However this Gets frustrating and
disappointing as you are not spending quality time with quality
women. Then a Year has gone by and you've had a lot of fun, but
still not a really special, high quality woman in your life,
that I'm sure you desire...
So the key to avoid the 'killer mistake' with online dating or
any dating, is to define what YOU WANT. Then put as much time
and energy as you can with women who fit that criteria, quickly
moving on from women who don't. As hard and harsh as that may
be, your success with women will be a direct result of how you
manage your time! This will lead you to finding the type of
woman who you want and look forward to spending time with.
This leads to a feeling of well being, success and contentment.
Good luck, I hope you've got value from this article.
Regards Mick Jones Author
http://www.howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com