Give Women What They Want - Part 2
Clothing
I spoke with one lady who said she was really fussy about
certain things. The main thing with her was the shoes a guy
wears. Now I would never have guessed this one, but she says
that if a guys shoes aren't up to scratch then it is a big turn
off. Luckily enough I knew about this before I met her.
My shoes are not usually well polished. In fact I wear sneakers
a great deal of the time. Therefore, when speaking to a
potential date on the phone, you might like to slip in a
question such as "How do you like your guys dressed? Casual?
Smart?"
Hygiene
Have a bath or shower before you go out! Sure, I don't need to
tell you this but let me remind you just in case! Clean your
teeth!
Appear as smart as you can with your personal hygiene and look
clean.
Money, Looks and Power
Certain traits attract women. It is the law of the jungle out
there and there is a pecking order. Some people have inherent
natural advantages such as exceptionally good looks. Others have
advantages that they have earned such as power or money. Let's
examine what women seek in these areas.
Money
Money, lots of it, is attractive to women. This is a
generalisation as some women are far less influenced by money
than others. Having said that, I know of several women who say,
"Money isn't important to me." Next minute they're describing
some really nice guy they've met adding the words "and he's
rich!" to the end of the conversation. Now if that isn't proof
positive of their interest in someone with money then I don't
know what else is.
But lets look at some recent research results. There were a
group of males who were graded for their attractiveness. A
photograph of each was taken and a fictitious job title attached
to each. These photographs were then shown to a large sample of
women who were asked to rate the physical attractiveness of each
male. Next, each male had a different job title attached to his
picture and they were rated for attractiveness again.
What the researchers found was that the males were rated as
significantly more physically attractive when given a lucrative
job title than when given a less lucrative job title. For
example, a guy may get a 7/10 if labelled as a lawyer, yet only
a 4/10 if they were told he was a janitor.
So how can we use this knowledge to our advantage?
Here's how...
#1: Make your job title sound attractive - if you clear
trash in the local park, tell them you "take care" of the local
parks. As the research shows, the better the perception of your
job title, the more physically attractive they will find you. If
it is any consolation, I find this hard to believe but the
researchers have done their work and uncovered this truth.
#2: Don't talk about debts - your date just doesn't need
to know at this stage. There are plenty of other topics of
conversation other than your mounting list of credit cards.
#3: Tell them you are ambitious or quite ambitious -
women find ambition an attractive trait as it hints at security.
Tell them you have no ambition and they'll think as a couple you
will always be struggling financially.
Looks
The beautiful people. The 10 out of 10's. Those individuals who
are blessed with exceptionally good looks. We all know who they
are and luckily for them, they get the pick of the bunch -
particularly the women.
But what about the rest of us? How can we find an attractive
partner when faced with this kind of competition?
The good news is that with women, looks aren't everything.
Current research shows that men are much more likely to put
looks first than women - with the exception of the stunning.
Researchers have found that stunning looking women are more
likely to look for a stunning partner to help perpetuate their
good looks from one generation to another. Whereas less
attractive women are more likely to stress loyalty as the most
important thing to them, as they want to keep a mate as long as
possible.
Since the truly stunning are few and far between, this means the
door is left wide open for us guys to find an attractive mate
regardless of our looks. The mosaic of your personality has lots
to offer and by putting your best side forward, you can attract
a woman far above your natural pecking order in the looks
department.
Power
Power is sexy. If you have it, then flaunt it because it is a
proven persuader. History is littered with examples of powerful
men being magnets for the opposite sex. It gives a person the
aura of having qualities that perhaps they might not possess,
such is the lure of this sought after possession.
Money can give you power. So can looks. But there are other and
they all have an effect.
Here are the main types of power:
Money
This has already been discussed and it can be one of the
strongest.
Authoritarian
Who hasn't heard of a woman being attracted to a man in uniform?
Yes, uniforms do look smart but then so do other forms of
dress.
One subconscious reason for the allure of uniform is its implied
authority. Police officers, the army, doctors and other
uniformed men have authority over others in certain situations.
A police officer can be in control on the street as a doctor can
be in the hospital. Each has power in their own domain, but not
necessarily any outside of it.
This type of power is contextual. In other words, you can only
exert its influence when you are dressed appropriately in that
context.
To use authoritarian power, you need to get your date or
potential girlfriend to meet you under the circumstances where
you have tangible indication of having this power. An example
would be for your date to meet you at the hospital while you are
wearing your doctors white coat. Then just say, "I'm sorry but
I'm running a bit late. Can you hang on while I get changed?"
This may seem a bit far-fetched but your date will always have
the image of you in your work situation. They may fantasise
about you at work, if they like that particular image of you in
uniform.
I wouldn't suggest you go out of your way to engineer this kind
of meeting, but if the situation arises and it doesn't take much
more effort, go for it.
Knowledge
You can impress with knowledge as it gives you the impression of
being a fountain of wisdom. It makes you seem more worldly wise,
intelligent and interesting. Women find this attractive, but
will quickly be turned off if you come across as a know it all.
Be humble and understated, but do let them know how much you
know when the situation calls for it.
For example, if your date says, "Have you been to France?" then
you can let them know that not only did you go to France, but
you also have studied the language, like their food and so on.
Don't lie or embellish your story. Just be sincere. Self-promote
your way into their mind. It will leave a favourable
impression.
I remember going back to a girl's place on a date some years
back. She had a picture on the wall that I recognised as
Leonardo da Vinci's. By a stroke of luck, I had read a magazine
article all about the man that very week. I knew nothing about
art but I reeled off fact after fact about the man, how he
studied the use of shadow in his paintings and that he used to
be a comedian amongst other things. She was amazed! I went up in
her estimation ten fold and she kept on about how nice it was to
meet someone so cultured!
I avoided talking about art from then on or she would have known
I knew practically nothing about the subject. Let me just say
that my date went very well that night!
Looks
This has already been discussed.
Physical
If you are stronger than another guy or person, you have
physical power over them. In today's society, you cannot coerce
anyone physically. However, it can be intimidating if you are
physically much stronger than another guy. But when it comes to
dating, you have to engineer the situation before you can exert
your physical prowess as a dating advantage.
The circumstances where you may prevail would be where you are
required to use this strength, such as down the beech playing
ball, in the gym or helping out around the house doing tasks
that require strength. Your advantages are then more apparent
and you may be admired for your physical abilities.
Yair
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