First Date? Hints for Success!
Ah, the anticipation! However it may have developed, you
are about to test the waters on a first date. It may have been a
while since you've done so. You may be a bit nervous. Whether
this is a blind date, a meeting arranged by friends, a personal
ad rendezvous, or even a date with someone you have spoken to in
person, there are some important factors to keep in mind.
Watching your manners, choosing the right attire, handling the
tab, conversation skills, even how to get a second date are
things to consider.
Before we get there, though, and become preoccupied with our
date, there is one crucial element to remember. Often in the
preparation and anticipation, we can forget about #1. That's
right, you - and your personal safety. I'm not suggesting we
become obsessive about precautions, merely alert, aware, and
prepared. For a first meeting, it is prudent to let a friend or
family member know where you are meeting, how long you expect to
be, and the name of your date. Touch base with your friend after
the date as a courtesy.
If you are to be having a blind date or are meeting an internet
date for the first time, it is best to keep personal
information, such as the address of your residence, to yourself.
For internet dates and dating service dates, be alert for any
anomalies between the description the person gave and what you
actually see and hear. Though not the norm, be leery of 'false
advertising.' Use your own mode of transportation to arrive.
Pick a public venue for this first meeting. Always carry some
emergency cash in case you need a cab or want to pay your own
way.
In today's world, we are blessed with a few technological
devices that simplify meetings and safety precautions. One of
the best self-protection devices, for dating or traveling, is
the cellular phone. Cell phones are easy to carry. Many have a
one-touch calling feature. By pressing and holding down one
button, you can call a friend, even an emergency assistance
number. Always be sure to charge the batteries on your cell
phone before leaving for your rendezvous or date. Whether your
car breaks down, you are running late, or you need to get out of
a sticky situation, a cell phone can be worth its weight in
gold. Use your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable on a date,
phone a friend from the restroom. Have him or her call you back;
it is reasonable to feign a reason for an emergency exit if you
are ill at ease.
Very uncomfortable? Tell an employee at the restaurant or
establishment. There is no need to be embarrassed. Be honest. In
our fast-paced society, it is expected that every
'meet-and-greet' may not always go as planned. Be gracious, of
course, but take smart precautions. Phone and ask a friend to
meet you outside if need be.
That said, you are well-prepared to venture forth. Look forward
to your date. Have reasonable expectations. Remember all the
wonderful things you are and have to offer and go enjoy.