The Power of Love - Dating Smart
You don't need to depend on fate to bring "The One" to
your doorstep. You might have to wait a very long time.
You don't have to be the prettiest girl or the most handsome guy
to be a successful dater. You don't need a huge bank account.
You don't have to drive a new sports car, live in a large home,
have the best sense of humor, or the most confidence. These
things are all desirable; but chances are, they won't keep the
target of your affection around forever.
So what is it that you need to get and keep your love around?
The answer is simple.
Power.
Many people looking for relationships are searching for someone
to complete them, to fill in what is lacking in their own lives.
A smart dater pays attention to detail, determines what it is
that the other person is lacking, and ultimately provides it. A
smart dater knows that when you are a source of something
another person needs to be happy, you have power over them.
The first step to achieving power and becoming a smart dater is
assessing the personality of the person you want to be with. You
must zone in on the characteristic that defines the person most.
Then, use your observations about their personality to determine
what the person needs in his or her life to be happy. Finally,
provide it.
Take, for example, the aggressive personality. If you're in love
with The Aggressor, you know that he or she isn't a bit shy. The
Aggressor knows what he or she is after, and thrives on the
challenge of attaining it. Love with The Aggressor can be
compared to a sport, and The Aggressor is looking to win. Like
in any sport, an easy victory can be quite boring and quick.
Your task is to give the Aggressor a challenge. Do not let your
heart be an easy win. If you do, the Aggressor will simply move
on to the next person. When the Aggressor leaves you a voice
mail to call them back, forget to call. When the Aggressor asks
you out for a date, once in a while tell them that you are too
busy. Be moody, selfish, and difficult from time to time. Now,
don't be completely mean - remember, you must give kindness and
affection to The Aggressor as much as you take it away. This
will drive The Aggressor insane, and cause him or her to lose
focus of the game. In no time, you'll be holding the trophy.
Perhaps your love interest is not The Aggressor. Perhaps he or
she is reserved and shy. This personality type tends to be
innocent, and maybe lacking in solid relationship experience.
You job, then, is to initiate The Quiet One into the realm of
relationships and dating. Give The Quiet One something to get
excited about. Shower The Quiet One with frivolous gifts and
attention. Approach The Quiet One with zest, energy, and an
ultra-positive attitude about life. Essentially, bring The Quiet
One out of his or her shell, making them feel comfortable with
you. In return, The Quiet One will become almost dependant on
you for fun, activity, and love.
There are a myriad of personality types you will find out in the
world. Another is The Snob. This person needs an average Joe or
Jane to bring them down to earth. They won't want to stoop to
the level of giving you a second look - but be persistent. The
Snob's affection is earned. The more affection you give, the
more flattered The Snob will become. This is because The Snob,
by trait, likes to be given things. Instead of spoiling the Snob
with things he or she already has, provide something unique.
Cook The Snob romantic dinners at home, and skip the fancy
restaurants. Pick the female Snob wildflowers instead of buying
traditional roses. The Snob can then brag to other Snobs that he
or she has someone "different" than everyone else. And as you
know, Snobs always like to have what everyone else doesn't.
There is also The Soap Opera Star. If you have the saintly
qualities needed to love The Soap Opera Star, more power to you.
This person eats, sleeps, and breathes drama. Take the normal
ups and downs in life, and multiply them by 1000. Such is the
life of The Soap Opera Star. The Soap Opera Star misplaces his
golf club, and everything that happens from that point on in the
day is absolutely ruined. Don't be surprised if The Soap Opera
Star takes his or her troubles out on you. If you desire to love
this gem, patience, understanding (even if you must pretend) and
the ability to console are qualities you have to put forth. The
Soap Opera Star will end up completely in love with you. If you
decide to leave The Soap Opera Star, he or she will stalk you.
Another popular personality is The Complainer. Everything annoys
The Complainer. You can tell The Complainer that he or she looks
nice today, and they will respond with a very serious, "Why do
you have to lie to me? I gained 5 pounds in the last week, my
pants look too short, and I'm having a bad hair day. I
definitely know I can't trust you to tell me the truth." If you
truly love The Complainer, you will never take their words to
heart. You will also keep providing them with more topics to
complain about, like a drug supply to an addict. Bring up topics
that you know they love to moan about. They, in turn, will
provide you with hours of one-on-one conversation. You'd better
have a good ear to listen, and be able to support them in their
outlandish claims. Don't expect to do too much talking yourself.
The Complainer will love you to death. Literally.
All in all, no matter what type of person you are trying to win
over, you can do it with a little bit of common sense and
consideration. Think your way through the situation. That's all
it takes. The power of love is in your hands.