Finding Other Gay People to Date
No matter where you live, a lot of gay people would like
to meet others like them for relationships without resorting to
using the online personal sites. Whether you are newly 'out' and
don't have many gay acquaintances, live in a relatively small
town or are isolated from meeting new people in some way, you
share a problem with more people than you think. Here are a few
tips from others that have found successful ways to meet other
gay people.
Look for signs that there could be a few gays lingering in your
area. See if a nearby University or college has a major arts
program. Check for a movie house that shows independent or
alternative films. While these establishments aren't absolute
substantiation of a gay community, they are likely to increase
the chance of a few gays being in the area.
Check out the local phone book for gay bars and gay bookstores.
You are more than likely to find one of either listed in the
area. If you are lucky enough to have a gay bookstore available
to you, not only is it a place to potentially meet someone; it
can be a great resource in itself. Most gay bookstores have a
bulletin board with local social events, support groups and
other activities of interest to the gay community. You might
even come across the occasional personal ad posted as well.
The employees will know of the local gay 'hangouts' and events.
Ask about gay events in the area from parades to social clubs.
Also, ask if they offer "Pink Pages". "Pink Pages" are similar
to the Yellow Pages but are geared toward the gay and lesbian
community. Depending on the size of you area's population, it
can range from the size of a pamphlet to a small book.
Also, you can try looking for "Pink Pages" through the search
engine of your choice. Many will break down their information
relative to specific regions or even cities. Finally, it might
be good to locate the local Parents, Family and Friends of
Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). You can visit http://www.pflag.org to
find out where the closest local chapter is located.
Once you begin your low profile research, you will find the
places to go that suit you. Use these resources to at least open
the door to more opportunities to meet other gays in your area.