25 Dating Strategies and Tactics
To find a long term relationship, you must go after it. It
probably isn't going to fall into your lap.
Here are some tips to improve your success.
1. You have to go after the one you want and then win them over.
Be a friend - show attention, understanding, acceptance, and
appreciation.
2. Satisfy emotional needs- show interest and listen to them.
Spark a romantic emotion. Romance is a combination of hope with
some doubt and it adds up to passion. People want what they
can't have.
3. The third part of love is respect. It is earned through your
actions. You must show an independent and confident personality.
You can live with them or without them. You are in no hurry and
aren't desperate.
4. You really have to date several people at once. It will make
you look like a great catch. When you have multiple options,
anyone who wants to be with you will work much harder. Instead
of you doing the chasing, they will be chasing you. This takes
the pressure off of yourself. You really want to date a few
people anyway before jumping from one long term relationship to
another.
Dating Strategies to keep in mind:
You must be happy with yourself before you will have success. Be
kind to yourself and turn off the negative thoughts. You can
change what you can and forget the rest. Don't worry about
things you can't change. If you can't change them, all the worry
in the world wont do any good.
Set some goals and write them down. You must make a plan with a
clear path you want to follow.
You must set aside a night each week to get out of the house. Go
where others gather. Check the paper for ideas and get out
there. How many people have you met at your house? Force
yourself to go out anyway. It is only one night a week, you can
still sit on the couch the other six nights. You aren't going to
find new people unless you actually go out.
There are single and available people all over the place. Nearly
every place you go, has single people if you LOOK. Start simple
don't go after the hottest person(too much pressure). Talk to
the average person, get a phone number and move on. It really is
a simple two step process. Meet and greet, a short conversation
with eye contact and then say Great meeting you, but I have got
to run; could I get your number? The Key is to RELAX. The more
you do this the easier it gets.
Take the initiative and be the first to show interest in them.
It shows confidence. You are only trying to get that first date.
Don't start fretting about your wedding and future children just
yet. Keep it simple. But you must do it yourself, no one will do
it for you. Don't let an opportunity pass by, get that phone
number and go from there.
Rejection is part of the dating game. Don't take it personal,
not everyone is going to want to date you. They may not be
dating at all right now. You never know unless you ask. Don't be
afraid of looking foolish, we all look foolish all the time. Use
positive reactions in the face of rejection. You aren't worried
if they say no. You asked and that is the most important thing.
One more no means you didn't waste your time and money on
someone who isn't even interested. Plus you are just closer to
finding the one who is interested. It is all practice and will
make you a master at dating that much quicker.
Get out of the house and start looking tonight.
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