Technology And The Loss Of Intimacy
They met in a club and even though he was not her "type", she
agreed to a date because he was nice and she didn't know how to
say "no." They made plans for tonight to have dinner and see a
movie. However, as the appointed time draws nearer, she is
frantically thinking of how she can get out of this date. She
just isn't interested in him and never would have said yes if
there had been an easy way out. She is dreading an awkward
evening of wishing she were home and glancing at the clock. What
can she do? Then it hits her, "I Know, I'll send a message to
the Alibi and Excuse Club." "They will help me find a way out."
Advances in technology have changed the way we relate and
communicate in all aspects of our lives. Dating related
industries have capitalized on this and have come up with ways
that singles can handle (among other things) awkward situations
like breaking a date or rejecting a potential suitor- with only
a few strokes of the keys and clicks of a mouse. Take the "Alibi
and Excuse Club," available on www.sms.ac. A member of this
group can send a message to the gang and someone will provide
them with- or help them fake- an excuse. Whatever happened to
good old communication, where we faced our uncomfortable
feelings- however difficult this was to do- and told the person
that we were just not interested? Not only was this a more
honest and respectful approach, it built communication skills
that would be critical in all of out relationships, throughout
our lives.
There are other digital services available to speak for us and
help us to avoid dealing with uncomfortable feelings-which, by
the way, we must know how to deal with in order to have true
intimacy with another. Here is a sampling of what is out there:
Both Virginmobileusa and rucingular.com offer a service that
allows you to program a call on your phone in advance of a date.
Then they call you and offer an excuse to end your date early.