Dating Tips: There Is This One Special Girl I'm Longing For...
Be honest. It has happened to all of us. There was this girl...
A girl you might have never even talked to... But still... You
couldn't help but think about her all day... And the more you
thought about her, the less courage you had to go up to her and
invite her for a get-together.
The above situation repeats itself from time to time. Back in
high school with the girl who went one class below you, at
university with that wonderful woman who always sat in the
second row or later with the lady who works at the room next to
yours.
And the damn feeling, this one-sided "love" keeps reappearing
and making your life a misery. The more you idolize these girls,
the further they go from your reality, and being with them one
day in the future becomes nothing more than a mere fantasy.
Lesson #1: In a relationship but more importantly, when going
out for the first time with somebody, it's always the person
with less emotional involvement who dictates and chooses. This
means if you go out with a girl and you let your happiness
depend on how the date goes, you are ruining your chances before
you had any. The more you stress yourself about a certain girl,
the more emotionally involved you become and as a result, you
are almost GUARANTEED to get rejected.
Lesson #2: Girls like to look up to their men for something. If
you ask some girls who are in love with their partners, they
will always adore him for something in his personality. It
doesn't matter why, but a woman has to look up to her man. If
you idolize a girl and put her on a pedestal, she will sense it
instantly. She will feel that SHE IS THE ONE IN CONTROL. As soon
as this happens, you are NOT A CHALLENGE for her anymore. The
result? You get rejected.
Lesson #3: When you have to work hard for your chocolate, it
will always taste sweeter. If you walk into the supermarket and
choose one from the huge collection of sweets, there is no
challenge in it. But when you have to work hard to get that "one
special" chocolate... Now that's a CHALLENGE! It's the same with
women. If you are not that easy to get, if she senses that you
might leave (and don't come back) in any moment, she will be
challenged and likely to become attracted to you.
Have you ever seen 8 guys drooling over the same woman, fighting
for her attention? Which one of them do you think has got the
girl? The 9 th, who was watching from a distance while showing
no interest towards her. The girl thought: "Why doesn't he come
here like all the other guys? Doesn't he like me? I must find
out why..." In the end, it was the girl who approached the guy
and wanted something from him. Now that's the POWER OF CHALLENGE
and CURIOSITY. Never underestimate it!
When you think you "love" a girl you have never even talked to,
you keep going round and round in a vicious circle. You keep
playing with the thought of being with this "one special girl"
in various situations. This projection of pictures in your mind
creates a lot of energy. This energy wants to explode and unless
it can do so (by being with the girl you dream about) it will
create a lot of stress and tension inside you. It's an endless
loop. If you try to ignore the feeling with force, it will
reappear and become even stronger.
Realize that this is not "real love"; it's just a form of LUST
TO POSSESS. You don't even know this girl; you are just driving
yourself around in this circle. The solution? First, admit this
feeling to yourself, then carry on with your life. Don't ignore
it; just notice that it's inside and you can't do anything about
it. Try to watch yourself from "the outside", from a neutral
point of view. And the second step is to focus your energy on
something else. Like going out and meeting other women. As soon
as you kiss or get closer to another girl, this "one special
lady" will be of less importance to you.
Lastly, there is a secret. Even the biggest badass players get
this feeling from time to time. They just learn to deal with it,
and thanks to their skills, it's easier for them to get other
women and focus on them instead. You can do yourself two big
favors. First, learn to get over your fear and approach the
woman you are longing for. That way even if you get rejected, it
happens sooner and you haven't wasted weeks or months from your
life. The second is to learn how to get women. Not only for
knowing how to deal with this girl, but with that skill, it will
also be easier to heal your wounds and get over her.
I teach both of these in a book I've written. It's an e-book
called "All About Women: The Encyclopedia Of Seduction". Apart
from the above, I cover each step of the seduction process, from
A to the Z. From understanding the way women think, to learning
to be a Man who attracts girls with his presence, approaching
women the right way, secrets of making your dates successful and
effective, improving your sexual life and a lot, lot more...
Whether you are ugly, bald, young, old or broke, the techniques
I teach will work for you like charm!