Overcoming Rejection
Overcoming Rejection
At one time or another during our life we will all experience
some sort of rejection. This is something that many people have
a great fear of and can often stop them from leading a normal
life. A lot of peopleare still yet able to deal with rejection
and therefor avoid situations where rejection may arise i.e.
applying for a higher paid job but most often then not asking
someone out on a date or flirting with someone. We ascociate
rejection with failure, inadequacy, we simply don't like the
feeling of being rejected.
You are in a club and a gorgeous guy is standing next to you at
the bar, you want to ask him to dance, to talk to him. But stop
there is a voice saying "what if he doesn`t like me, what if he
has a girlfriend". To late he is already on the dance floor with
the girl that asked him to dance. You are left standing at the
bar feeling miserable and foolish at not having the guts to ask
him to dance. Not to mention jelous because this other girl has
him now.
Now you need to start thinking about getting over this fear of
rejection before it takes control of your life. We only have one
life and should not use up any of the valuable time regretting
what might have happened if only we weren`t afraid of rejection.
(Because you will regret it.)
Write a short letter to yourself about how you felt the first
time you were rejected by anyone. Sad, a failure, useless and so
on.
Now write what happened as a result of the rejection. Not how
you felt, but look back over the days, weeks, months and even
years how would your life had changed if you hadn`t been
rejected. Maybe you were rejected by a man and he is now, a
slob, a millionaire or even dead. Would you have met your
husband, (if married) the partners you have had since. Is this
good or bad? Do the same exercise for being rejected from a job,
parents etc.. It is very important that you do this task. At the
end of it you will no whether this was an act of fate and that
you are much happier with what you have got or whether things
have never been so bad for you. You will often find that things
have gotting better. If things have been bad ever since, ask
yourself why and be truthful. Did the rejection stop you from
asking a gorgeous guy out or any guy for that matter? Are you
still stuck in the same job because you were afraid to apply for
a higher paid job in case of rejection.
Now you have established how you feel about rejection and the
role rejection has played in your life. It is now time to write
down all the things that you have regreted not doing because of
the fear of rejection.
Like before is the thing you regretted not doing anything that
is worth regretting. The one question that really needs to be
asked is are you happy? There is many ifs and buts and whether
your life changed for better or worse that is in the past and
now as you sit and stare at the screen you are in your past,
present and future and you need to look at what is important. Is
my life good? Am I happy? Have I got what I want? If you have
answered yes then you are on the wrong page but thanks for
taking the time to read this.
If the answer is no to these questions then you need to start
thinking about tomorrow and how to make it better than today.
You have already established what is wrong. Fear of rejection
and until you get over this fear you will never be happy because
you will always be living on "If only`s".