Teachers: Discover How To End Your Classroom Management
The top question we get at Live Expert Help at our web site is
"How do I get kids to behave?" Often, that teacher or counselor
is looking for new discipline methods that will better engender
appropriate behavior in their setting. Often, that teacher or
counselor does not like our answer.
Our answer is that discipline and consequences are often
ineffective. Yes, every school or agency needs both, but alone,
they don't work. Alone? Yes, if you have a discipline and
consequence structure set up, but have not first taught your
students the skills, motivation and attitudes that they need to
perform the desired behaviors, you will almost certainly find
your discipline is ineffective.
Children and youth often can not do specific behaviors that they
were never taught. Further, those youngsters who have bad
attitudes and no motivation may have no interest in performing
to your satisfaction. Yet, teaching students to have the desired
skills, motivation and attitude is almost universally
over-looked at most sites. If you want to remedy that oversight,
here are the essential elements that must preface or accompany
your discipline and consequences:
Got Skills? Years ago, families taught their offspring the basic
skills required in school and other settings. Now, many students
have never been taught the necessary nuts-and-bolts behaviors
that are essential to functioning. They may see bad behavior at
home and bring it with them to your site. That's why many youth
seem to have no sense of acceptable anger control, verbiage, or
personal space and distance. Set up any discipline and
consequences you want, but if the child lacks the key skills to
comply, discipline can't make much difference. Got Motivation?
If a child believes that your service is unimportant, their
behavior is likely to reflect that belief. Children once learned
at home about the value of school or your service. If
contemporary students don't learn that at home, and you don't
teach it at your site, the child's behavior may reflect their
contempt despite any disciplinary efforts.
Got Attitude? If a child has a negative attitude about your
site, that's likely to be reflected in problematic conduct.
Discipline usually can't compel a child to change, but adjusting
the child's attitude to be more positive, can create results
that by comparison, seem almost magical.
Want Discipline? Teach Skills-- and Attitudes and Motivation
Stop looking for the right consequence or discipline structure,
and focus on building skills, motivation and attitude. All the
consequences in the world can't compel a child to do behavior
they lack the skills, attitude and motivation to do. But skills
may be the most important of the three. There are so many skills
to teach, here's a few to start with: Show Up You work no magic
on an absent student. Attendance may be the single most
important skill that most schools and agencies never teach.
Worse, if a student doesn't show up, and is suspended, does that
assist the child to improve their attendance? What works
infinitely better: Teach the child the attendance skills they
need, then perhaps they'll have the skills to improve. Without
skills, suspension or other discipline can't overcome the fact
that the child hasn't set their alarm, or doesn't know where
their bus pass is.
Listen Up If you can't communicate with the child, how can you
provide your service? Teaching children to have "ears on
teacher" (or counselor, foster parent, etc.) is a basic concept
that many sites have forgotten to teach children. Discipline
can't turn back the clock and compensate for the reality that
the child never heard you in the first place. Look Up If the
eyes are elsewhere, you may find it hard to communicate. "Eyes
on teacher" should be universally taught, but is not. If the
eyes aren't tracking, sanctions won't remedy that on-going gap
in skills, but skill-building can.
Other Key Initial Skills to Teach First Anger control, and
properly managing fists, legs, arms, mouth, actions. Don't
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