Working with a Coach
I am sure that at some stage in your life you have dreamed of
being someone special, someone important or successful. It can
seem so hard at times to take that first step and step outside
where we are right now to where we want to be. Today more and
more people want to take that first step and are finding
themselves working with a Coach to achieve what they want.
One of the first things a Coach will do when they work with you
is help you to set yourself goals which you can then start to
work towards achieving. Before you start to work with a coach
you can do some work on moving things forward in your own life
by thinking about your goals.
The most common problem people encounter when they think about
setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up
thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No
one can do this. However, if everyone thought that, there would
be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human
accomplishment.
Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at
the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was
impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the
bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.
On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally
outrageous dreams and not acting on them. Sadly the result is
broken dreams and tattered aspirations. If you limit yourself
with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never
be able to break through and past those things that you deem
impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without
working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging onto
the impossible dream.
Try this exercise for a few weeks. Take a piece of paper and
write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down
things 'you know you can do'. Under another header, write the
things 'you might be able to do.' And under one more, list the
things that that are 'impossible for you to do.'
Now look at all the headers and for a few weeks strive every day
to accomplish the goals that are under things 'you know you can
do'. Place a tick beside them when you are able to accomplish
them. As you slowly are able to tick all of your goals under
that heading, start to try accomplishing the goals under the
other header, the one that reads 'you might be able to do.'
As you achieve the items you wrote under "things I could do" you
can start to move the goals that are under things that are
'impossible for you to do' to the list of things 'you might be
able to do.'
As you progress through this process, you will find out that the
goals that you thought were impossible become easier to
accomplish. You will surprise yourself as the impossible begin
to seem possible after all.
You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It
is to aim high and to start working towards that goal little by
little. However, it is unwise to set a goal that is truly
unrealistic.
Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up
disappointed and disillusioned. On the other hand, if you told
someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be
on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that
you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in
a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But,
through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams
are now daily realities.
If it's so easy you may be wondering why you need a Coach. One
of the principle benefits of working with a Coach is that they
will inspire you to work towards your goals and support you as
you achieve them. Above all else they will be there to hold you
accountable as you strive to achieve your goals.