Are you lonely in this crowd ?
This world is a crowd. We all live in a crowd. Our family, our
friends, our business associates, our co workers, and our
community. All these form a crowd for us not in the dictionary
sense, but let us say that we are always getting connected with
someone, somewhere and are not living on an island alone. Even
then, many of us feel lonely. Are you one of them?
Being lonely means - I am not able to share my deepest thoughts
with anyone. I have issues at home. I have issues at my office.
I have issues with my relatives. I have issues with my friends.
I am carrying so much of hurt and guilt inside me. I want to do
many things, and at times, I need help. I don't know ,who to
ask? I feel lonely. I feel all alone. I feel that no one
understands me. Despite all my trials, I fail to share and
convey my feelings. If I talk about my office issues with my
wife/husband or my girl/boyfriend, I am not able to get any good
advise. They all have their suggestions and analysis of my
situation, but that differs greatly from what I believe to be
true. Therefore, I shut up after talking for awhile with them.
I have friends with whom I try to talk about my problems. But
they want to tell me theirs first. What is taken quite seriously
by me, is considered ordinary by others. What do I do? Shall I
consult a psychiatrist? How will that help? My character, and my
thinking. Is something wrong with them? Who will tell me? Who
will guide? I feel very disturbed at all the times. I want peace
in my mind. I go out to walk alone, but my thoughts don't leave
me anywhere. This agitation of my mind is becoming intolerable.
I feel lonely. I want to talk with someone who will understand
my point of view and tell me what to do?
Are you one of such people? Do you feel lonely? Do you also feel
that you have no one to share your deepest thoughts? Have you
started feeling that everyone is selfish? No one has got time
for you? No one wants to understand you? No one cares for you?
What can you do in such a situation? You may be feeling
helpless, but something ought to be done. The first step in such
agitation should be to avoid thinking for sometime during a day.
Involve yourself in some such activity that takes your mind away
from itself. Any activity that will engross you completely. A
good movie, a good novel, some magazines, a show, any activity
that takes the mind away will give some peace. The next step
would be to find out if anyone you know, is also facing such a
state? How does one do that? For this you will have to shift
your attention from yourself to others. Begin listening to
others. Ask them about their problems and listen. You may
probably find that there are few others who are also in the same
boat. Even if you are not religious, try to talk to god. Tell
him about what all goes on in your life and your mind. Ask him
to help you.
One who feels lonely in the crowd of people, must first raise
his/her self esteem. You must say - OK. Other than god, no one
will understand what I am facing. That is OK. I will set some
exciting goals for myself. I will try to achieve them. For me,
my life is very important. I will live my life in such a way
that I feel proud of it. I am a good person and I know that. I
don't honestly care if others are not understanding me. I will
try to understand their problems and help them. Rather than
asking for help, let me start giving.
To help others and yourself in such situations, please use some
eCards. Here is a small collection for you. Only One Life To Live , Stop Worrying , God Will Guide You ,Play On , Overcome Storm Clouds ,You Have The Right Qualities , The Way To Live , Faith- Key To Success