Ten Commandments to Write a Heartfelt Love Letter that Conveys
"I Love You"
Copyright 2006 Off the Page
1. Write a love letter when you're feeling loving
Its purpose is to express your depth of feeling - your
unrestrained emotions. It's not like a shopping list that you
can jot down just by picking up a pen. The intensity of those
feelings hitchhike on the words and will be "felt" by the
receiver.
2. Hold the image of your lover in your mind, and open your
heart to them
Let it flow. Capture the emotions that arise from your core.
Expressing them adds an eloquence seldom evoked by daily
conversations. The language of love is as artful as a dance. Its
goal is to delight, rather than to inform. To caress with
emotional undertones, rather than to bludgeon with facts.
3. Avoid any practical matters that puncture the mood
This moment is an escape from the tyranny of routine
responsibilities. That will come back soon enough. For the
moment, only your beloved matters. It's often said that love is
timeless - sink into the timelessness of it. It's a profound
experience - a bonus for writing from (and with) the heart.
4. Take your time in the writing and polishing of it
Short or long, this is a unique mode of communication. It
doesn't follow the rules of grammar or business correspondence.
Savor the writing experience - you're doing it for them. Avoid
second-guessing what you've said (the mind wants to jump in and
edit, but doesn't speak this language well).
5. Use adjectives and descriptive images to "paint" a picture
with words
A love letter creates an alternate reality. One that the heart
desires - and shares with another. And in it the rest of the
world is held at bay. Don't feel shy about writing "poetically"
to evoke an emotional response. But don't force it either. Get
into specific details about every aspect of their personality,
behavior, etc. Don't worry about saying too much; a person never
gets bored by hearing too many wonderful things about himself or
herself.
6. Speak what's true for you - what your feelings believe
Truth takes on its own shades of meaning when it comes to
romance. Your letter should tell what's true about them (or your
relationship) in your eyes. When you say "you're the most
wonderful person..." with sincerity, it's absolutely true.
7. Realize that a love letter is a frame of mind that helps to
keep love alive
And it can and should creep into aspects of your relationship.
Expressing love is active. Don't simply say it, demonstrate it.
In a hundred little ways. That's how the "ties that bind" are
created.
8. Express appreciation for who they are, and why they're
important to you
That person is special - and special to you. Make sure they know
it. Unlike a "Thank You" note (which has a sense of obligation
about it) this is a "Thank Heaven for You!" note.
9. Escape your romantic routines, so your passionate messages
stay fresh
The goal isn't to be "good at love letter writing." It's not a
technique to be mastered (though you will get better as you
continue). The best ones arise from passion. Their authentic and
sincere message arises spontaneously. You want to keep
re-discovering each other, so your relationship keeps growing.
10. Add extras that delight the emotions and senses
Consider the whole package - not just the words you write. Weave
an enchanting experience rich in sensuous details. Handwritten
on special paper Add scents. If possible, choose the time and
method of delivery.
Deliver a Soon-to-be Treasured Memory
And once you've written your truly touching words of love, add
another element to make the delivery stand out. Send it by Pixel
Post. Your loveletter is both public and private because the
whole world can read it (but only your sweetheart knows who sent
it). Your will appear among the greatest loveletters ever
written. Read some pixel-sized loveletters at
Worlds-Smallest-Loveletters.com
http://www.worlds-smallest-loveletters.com.
Whatever method of delivery you choose, do make a practice of
writing your words of love to each other. It's a two-way street
that's best traveled together.