Fueling the Fires of Passion
Fueling the Fires of Passion
What do you do when your marriage becomes routine? For many of
us, the everyday routine of work, childcare, and bill paying
extends to our lovemaking with our spouses. But, no matter how
long you've been married, there are plenty of ways to spice up
your love life. Let's start in the bedroom - the hub of hubba
hubba!
Gentlemen, start your engines
* Decorate your bedroom with pictures of yourself and your
partner. Choose pictures that bring back happy memories of times
you had as a couple. For instance, your wedding, a special date,
or a vacation. Avoid hanging pictures of relatives: family
pictures belong in the family room. It's a real turn-off to see
your grandparents and in-laws scowling at you while you're naked
and ready for romance. * Speaking of mood: mood lighting can
work wonders for a bland bedroom. Soft lighting helps to warm
the atmosphere and it makes people look sexier too. You want to
be able to see what you're doing, without blinding your partner
or having to grope around clumsily in the dark. Install a dimmer
switch for a bedside lamp. Some people like to buy black lights
(UV light bulbs available at Lowe's or Home Depot) because the
bulbs create the appearance of a sexy tan on your bodies. *
Roses, orchids and other scented flowers can fill your room with
romance. Scented candles-especially lavender and pumpkin-are a
type of aromatherapy that many people find arousing. * Lock you
door! If you don't have a lock, get one. It's almost impossible
to lose yourself in the moment if you're worried that you will
be found out any minute by an intruding child.
Ladies, start his engine
Now that the bedroom is ready for action, it's time to use it!
Ladies, sometimes it's best to take charge and turn him on for a
change. Why should he have to instigate everything? Here are a
few tips to get his motor running. * Make the first move and
continue to direct the action. Men get tired of having to call
the plays all the time. Having a woman take charge will be
something out of a fantasy for him. * Arrange a night out, but
keep your plans a secret. What could make your man feel more
special than to have his loved one plan and pay for an intimate
evening together?
Another way to show your partner that he is desired is to play
up the little things. * Leave little love notes in his lunch box
and on his pillow. His coworkers might give him some grief at
first. But, every other man will be wishing his wife left notes
for him. * Demonstrate a bit more affection in public. No need
to embarrass him or make him feel uncomfortable. But mini
massages, kisses on the cheek and toying with his hair are ways
to let him feel that he is desired. Let the world know you're in
love. Let the world - and your man - know that you just can't
keep your hands off him. That's a real ego boost for a man.
He'll appreciate it and feel flattered. * Dress up once in a
while. Toss off the flannel and turn up the glamour. Strut your
stuff and remind him how beautiful you really are. When you were
dating, you dressed to impress and to attract. Dress tonight
like you dressed when you were dating
Every couple has their own ways of showing affection. Also,
every couple needs to be comfortable with new ways of
demonstrating romantic gestures. So, try some of these
suggestions. See which ones work best for you-and for him. Doing
the things you did when you wanted to get married might just be
the things that help you stay married. Turn back the romance
clock, and turn on the fun.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dr. Alan Stafford,
Relationship Results Coach I help Singles and Couples build
relationships that work www.relationshipsuccessexperts.com
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