Will your child's lack of manners keep him/her from attending the college of your choice? In this day and age, dining out may be done from a paper bag, but many colleges and universities are now evaluating the social skills of potential students.

Not all schools require personal interviews as part of evaluating a student for acceptance, but there is a trend in this direction. Often the student ia asked to attend a luncheon and his/her dining skills are monitored and assessed. Schools do not want people who are going to be uncouth alumni.

I was recently privileged to be the keynote speaker at a Chicago university which sponsors a program for high school girls who are juniors and seniors. These girls are introduced to the possibility of choosing a career in the fields of technology, and have a chance to explore whether or not a career in the technological fields would be appropriate for their college major.

As a professional in the field of teaching etiquette, I was asked to address these girls at a luncheon given in their honor. My mission at that luncheon was to teach the girls how to dress and present themselves for an interview, and how to exhibit proper dining skills while at the table.

By the time we had worked our way through five courses including instructions; the students were well informed competent diners, and often amazed by what they had learned.

Next, we addressed the issue that our personal income may be at least partially determined by how well we mind our manners and our attitudes. Our ability to be promoted may depend on our people skills as well as our techincal skills. Three seperate studies conducted by Harvard University, the Carnegie Foundation, and the Stanford Research Institue agree that "Success in getting, keeping, and advancing in a job depends 85% on people skills and only 15% on technical skills". So proper social skills including courtesy and respect may be the bottom line in determining a profitable future.

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Edith Vosefski MA.,is the Director of the Etiquette School of Northern Illinois. She works with individuals, schools, and corporations who want to perfect their social skills. She is a graduate of Northwestern University, and believes that manners are just important today as they ever were. In fact, she also believes that etiquette can be fun, fascinating, and functional. She writes a newspaper column "Hats Off to Etiquette" which is published regularly by the Liberty Press.