Lying on a Nail
Once there was a young woman who didn't like her job. Everyday
when she came home from work, she told her husband how terrible
her day had been, how tiring the work and how unreasonable her
boss. "Leave that job," her husband told her.
"Oh I will" she said. "But not yet. I have too many friends
there for me to leave just yet." And so she complained until the
days became years and her family grew to five. "Leave that job,"
her children told her. "Oh I will" she said. "But not yet. I
have seniority and four weeks vacation I can spend with you. I'm
not ready to start over just yet.
And so she remained unhappy at work until the years became
decades and her children had children. "Leave that job," her
grandchildren told her. "Oh I will," she said. "But not yet.
There's only seven more years until I reach thirty years of
service and can retire. So I can't just yet."
I know this woman. And scores like her. People who settle for
where they are, what they're doing, and how they're doing it.
People who have planted their feet in status quo cement, lacking
the courage to move from what is to what could be. People
experiencing work like a four letter word and doing nothing to
change it.
They remind me of the story about an old dog half-asleep on the
porch of the general store, moaning and groaning in the sun.
"Why is your dog acting that way?" a customer asked the store
owner. "Oh," answered the man, "he's lying on a nail." "Well,
why doesn't he move?" "Because it's not hurting him bad enough."
That's true for people, too. We convince ourselves the pain is
not bad enough to leave the workplace we know. But we're wrong.
Prolonged work pain is damaging. Some damages our self-esteem,
kills our passion or destroys our dreams. Some emerges when we
compromise our values, quiet our voice or hide our talent. Some
happens when we're seduced by power or believe our own myths of
importance and significance. Some occurs when we look the other
way, say yes when we mean no or forfeit the promises we made to
ourself.
Wilbur Wright, of the Wright brothers fame, once commented, "We
could hardly wait to get up in the morning." I know that
exhilarating feeling of being so passionate about something I
was working on that I couldn't wait to get back to work. And
people who are winning at working know that kind of passion, too.
They get excited about work. They thrive offering their unique
gifts and talents. And when things change as they sometimes
will, they refuse to let a soul-depleting boss or environment
hijack their self-esteem, passion or dreams. When work becomes
work, they stop lying on a nail and do something about it.
(c) 2006 Nan S. Russell. All rights reserved.