Your Personal Wedding Invitations

When planning your wedding, leave sufficient time to consider the invitations. The look of them, the wording of them, the intent behind their presentation--all send a message to the recipients and set the tone for the wedding itself. Traditional wording for your wedding invitations would be something like this: Mr. & Mrs. John White Request the honor of your presence To witness the bonding together Of their daughter Evelyn Linda White And Mr. Michael Warren Jessop Son of Mr. And Mrs. Winston Jessop This would, of course, be followed by the particulars. A less formal approach might read something like this: Evelyn Linda White And Michael Warren Jessop Invite you to witness Their vows of love On their wedding day. (And so on...) There is nothing inherently right or wrong about a formal versus a casual approach to your wedding invitations. That decision simply depends on the scale of the event. There are situations when it would be appropriate to include the invitation to the wedding reception with the wedding invitation. At other times, it would be more prudent to create a separate invitation for both events. A separate invitation to the reception only might look like this: Evelyn Linda White And Mr. Michael Warren Jessop Request the pleasure of your company At their wedding reception, Sunday, the tenth of June 3:00 P.M. St. Andrew's Church 3268 Sixth Avenue Black tie requested RSVP 888 376-9882 Note: E-mail RSVPs are still not acceptable unless the event is informal. Also, there is rarely, if ever, a time when it would be appropriate to invite a guest to your wedding but not to your reception. A fairly new accessory to the wedding and reception invitations is the "reply card." This is simply a separate card included inside the invitation, with lines to be filled out. Etiquette requires you to provide a stamp on the reply card's envelope. The rules are not as important, however, as your intention. If you put a little conscious energy into every phase of your wedding, including your invitations, you will manifest a clear and ringing expression of your love and commitment, and a beautiful memory for a lifetime.