Why discretion, in attraction, really is the better part of
valor
A lot of guys get in trouble when they discover that, yes
attraction CAN be created on demand, and that yes, you literally
can attract more women than you know what to do with. Just
because a thing can be done, attraction on demand, doesn't mean
that it should be. Just because you can spend time with a new
woman every week (or every day), doesn't mean you should. Why?
Because, like I discover every year when football ends, there's
a whole wide world of other things out there.
Attracting women is NOT the end all, be all, indeed, it is only
the means to an end, a skill that allows you choice in one
important area of your life: relationships. Too many men go a
little crazy when they discover they can create attraction on
demand and it consumes their lives. Every single moment is spent
trying to "pick up" another woman to the detriment of other
aspects of life.
You've got to manage the time you spend on attraction. To do so,
you have to know your goals, not just with women, but in every
aspect of your life. Once you do so, you can allot the correct
amount of time to attracting women (or one special woman), so
that it doesn't take away from everything else you want to do.
It's important to me to be in good physical health, to have
money, and to hang around people I enjoy spending time with. If
I spend too much time on attracting women, then that would take
away from those goals. If I spend just the right amount of time
in the attraction phase, then that enhances those goals.
I've always been a big believer that discretion is indeed the
better part of valor, and the use of discretion is paramount in
attracting women and achieving goals in other areas of your
life. Sometimes it makes a lot of sense to stay in and work on a
project that will bring you economic freedom instead of going
out and attracting women that may bring you only fun in the
moment. Attraction has it's place in my life, but doesn't
dominate it.
How you live your life, and what you accomplish is ultimately up
to you, but I'd advise you to spend a little time and see how
developing attraction skills and attracting women fits into
it--because it certainly should. Spending no time on attraction
is a very bad thing, but spending too much time on it is also
bad--you need to determine for yourself the right amount of time
to spend on it, so you can accomplish EVERYTHING you want to in
your life.