Top 10 Dating-Relationship Mistakes - JBC
The 7 Killer Dating Mistakes
In your search for a great relationship, you shouldn't just
leave things to luck. There are many things that you can do that
can enhance your dating experience. Unfortunately, though, there
are also an awful lot of things that you can do to make sure
that you're a dating flop.
The following are the most common mistakes made by daters. Take
the time to read and learn them so that you won't make these
mistakes too.
* The False Front - though it is important to look good when
you're dating, remember that you should always be realistic. If
you do meet someone you like, you will be seeing that person a
lot. In that case, you won't be spending several hours getting
ready every time. There is a difference between looking nice,
and setting your date up for disillusionment. When you get
ready, remember to be yourself. Look your best, look good, but
make sure that it's you in there! No false fronts.
* Availability - when you're dating, it's important to make
yourself available when you find someone you like. After all,
you've gone to an awful lot of effort to find a person who may
qualify for a relationship. That person won't stick around
forever if you don't put in some effort.
* Realistic Fun - relationships are often a lot of fun when they
first get started. Everything is so fresh, exciting, and new.
However, it doesn't take long to discover that fun can only go
so far. Make sure that you have other things in common, such as
goals and values, if you want something long-term. Other than
fun, you need to keep your eyes open for companionship, respect,
love, and commitment. With those characteristics, you're bound
to have fun and a great relationship.
* Perfectionism - we all have our own fantasies about the right
person. After building up this fictional Mr. or Ms. Right for so
long, it can be hard to let a real person in. After all, real
people are flawed. There is nothing wrong with having a dream.
Just don't let your dream block out a perfectly good person for
a great relationship. Remember that it is our quirks and
idiosyncrasies that make us special. Instead of rejecting them,
treasure them when they come in a great person.
* Immediacy - a relationship isn't something that happens
instantly. Though you may want a relationship immediately,
unless you give it time to grow, you'll only be disappointed.
Give yourself the opportunity to meet people, get to know
people, like people, and find the right person. By rushing into
a relationship, you're setting up for a fall.
* Needs - though love is very important in a relationship, there
is a lot more to it than just one emotion. The Beatles song "All
You Need is Love" is sweet, but isn't the key to a long-term
relationship. You (and your partner) have many needs, and they
all need to be met for things to work. Love is only one of those
needs. You also need to remember responsibility, appreciation,
trust, intimacy, and many other important factors.
* Time - one of the hardest things to admit to yourself is that
a person you've been seeing for a long time isn't the person for
you. You may have known it from the start of the relationship,
but didn't want to hurt any feelings. The thing is, the longer
you wait, the harder it will be. While you're dating, you're
testing out different people to find the right one for you. If
you discover that you're with the wrong person, the best thing
you can do is stop. It's only fair to yourself and to your
partner.
By avoiding these most common mistakes, you'll be much more
certain to have a happy relationship. It will meet your needs
and those of your partner. It will also last much longer, and
through many more obstacles. Happy dating.