Romantic Gifts Show You Care
Love may come from the heart, but romance is a state of mind.
And let's face it - not all of us are born with a natural
inclination to be romantic. Some of us simply have a hard time
expressing our feelings, and even more difficulty showing the
women in our lives that we care about them. Nonetheless, it's
important to cultivate our romantic inclinations; after all,
it's the currency that most women use to evaluate our feelings
for them. A gesture or a gift can express what our words cannot,
and can communicate both our thoughtfulness and our caring.
The first step in tapping into our romantic nature is to look at
things from the woman's perspective. Notice that the ways in
which you view the world - and your relationship - are different
than the ways she views things. Next, make it a point to notice
the small things that catch her attention. Perhaps she comments
on how delicious a certain wine is, how beautiful the neighbor's
yard looks with a particular flower in bloom, or how she saw a
gorgeous piece of jewelry at the mall.
Once you begin to pay attention to what brings her pleasure and
happiness, you're on your way to being a true romantic. The
thing to keep in mind is that romance is about her desires, not
yours. Your satisfaction comes from watching her joy.
The next step in cultivating your romantic nature is showing
your affection through your deeds. Believe it or not, the most
mundane things - like noticing the clean dishes need to be put
away and doing it without being asked - can mean a tremendous
amount to a woman. Plucking a flower from your garden and
presenting her with it when you come home from work can bring
tears of appreciation to her eyes. And, when the occasions
arise, selecting meaningful gifts will, from her perspective,
affirm your feelings for her.
The primary rule of romantic gift giving is selecting something
that she will enjoy. That may sound simplistic, but more than
man has been bewildered at why his wife or girlfriend wasn't
thrilled with the Xbox, PlayStation, or Nintendo he had given
her. After all, he considered it the perfect gift, and would
have been grateful to receive a gaming system.
Instead, select a gift that conveys that you understand her
sense of style and taste, and that you appreciate her as a
woman. Perfume, tasteful lingerie, and jewelry are always
appropriate. She might be delighted with personal electronics,
as long as you add a personal touch. If you give her an iPod or
mp3 player, for example, download songs from her favorite
artists.
When you're cultivating your romantic nature, the most important
thing to remember is that you don't have to be perfect. Gestures
and gifts that communicate your thoughtfulness and appreciation
of her as a person and as a woman are certain to delight her.