The Many Complexities of Love
You're probably wondering what is up with the title there. Why
in the hell would anyone need a net, unless they need to go
fishing. Well readers bring out the net because someone is about
to fall...
>From where? Well, it could be just about from anywhere... but
mostly it is because of love.
Why? Maybe because love is the biggest oxymoron of all. How is
it an oxymoron? You mean, you have not noticed it until now?
Well, let us see. Oxymoron is a figure of speech that entails
two normal but contradicting facts. In a way, oxymoron is also
like an ironic situation or statement.
A great poet once crafted a loving and very ironic piece on love
being an oxymoron, all the while enumerating the many reasons
why people keep falling.
According to this poet, people basically keep falling because of
the many ironies of love. We fall only when we start standing up
for love. We fall only when we start climbing the mountainous
complexities of love. That is how love is an oxymoron. Because
whatever you say about it, no matter how different they are,
would always stay true. It is hard to explain, yet its easy
enough to understand.
It is easy to fall in love; however it is also hard to be in
love. We seem to easily fall in love with someone who would not
even give us the time of day but cannot find the a place in our
heart to give a chance to a person who seems to love us so much
and would do anything for us.
You do not know how love works because it is too confusing but
yet you understand its inner workings in your heart and life.
When we fall in love, we find it irritating that people who does
not necessarily approve of our relationship with the other
person, keeps bugging us with reasons why we fell in love . But
in the end we keep telling them, that we do not have any reason
why we fell in love, we just know that we do. But when someone
really supportive of our relationship asks why we fell in love
with a certain person, we easily enumerate the many reasons why
we love that person.
Its funny that when we fall in love, we try to tell the other
person that we love them for what they are and change would not
be necessary. Then again on the course of the relationship
itself, we make simple comments about how much of a slob the
other person is, or how she does not make an effort to look
pretty. And when this argument is brought up (about not
changing) the most common reason we hear is that I am not trying
to change you, I just want you to be a better person. Is
becoming a better person quintessential to both parties?
Even those who faithfully pursued their beloved feel the irony
of love. After endless days of hoping and praying for the day
that the other person will feel the same way, the magical time
comes and they become blissful. For the first time the sun seems
to shine from the perfect spot, the wind seems to blow with just
the right breeze... they now feel how blissfully wonderful it is
to be alive, yet they feel that they could die any moment too.
And when we are really in love, the simple things affect us in
simple ways. We say that the immensity of the problem, however
miniscule the problem is, makes it unbearable for us to continue
with the relationship. Nevertheless, when our partner apologizes
and promises to change for the nth time, we tell ourselves and
everyone around us, that there is nothing that we canot handle.
And when one is just about done with the many hurt that love has
brought upon their lives, suddenly love twists it all around and
the almost perfect significant other comes cruising to your life.
But the funniest and weirdest part of falling in love would have
to be how love can make us all knowing and stupid at the same
time. For many of us, we could not even begin to start counting
the countless times that we spent handing out advices to friends
and people close to us about their love problems, but when it
finally happens to us, we find ourselves, lost for words.
Even the geniuses are baffled with love, because as much as love
is an oxymoron, sometimes it causes us to be morons. It is funny
but also sad and true.