Dating Tip: "How To Ask A Man You Work With Out For A Date Using
Class, Style, Dignity And Integrity
I recently received this question from a woman wanting dating
advice. If you've ever seen a man you work with that you're
attracted to, who you'd like to date but, for whatever reason,
he hasn't asked you out, you might try this technique.
First, her dating question:
"I am a 29 year old single woman. I am very attracted to a man
at work and would like to go out on a date with him. I only know
him to say 'Hello' to and I have found out that he is single."
"I am well educated and dress very well and have been asked out
for dates by many men, but I have never asked a man to go out on
a date. What should I do?"
Here's my dating advice:
It's not just letting him know you're attracted to him or
asking him out. It's letting him know you're attracted to him
and asking him out with class, style and dignity while keeping
your integrity intact. The last thing you want is for him to get
the wrong impression. You don't want him to think you're cheap
and you don't want him to think you're looking for a one night
stand.
The first thing you want to do is let him know, in a nice way,
you're interested in him. Then he will either respond by
encouraging the interaction or not respond and walk away.
An important dating tip: As an attractive woman, you know there
is nothing worse than a man coming on to you when the feeling
isn't mutual. That's how he will feel if he doesn't share your
interest.
Here's how to let him know you're interested in him using
class, style and dignity: When you see him coming, stop what
you're doing. If you're walking, stop. If you're sitting, stop
what you're doing. Just stand or sit there calmly, wherever it
is, and establish eye contact with him. Then smile and let him
either walk up to you or walk by you.
An important dating tip about establishing eye contact: You
don't want to stare him down. Rather, you want to look at him
until you get his attention. Once you have his attention, hold
the eye contact a moment, then smile.
And an important dating tip about smiling at him: Don't use a
sexy, seductive smile. It gives him the wrong message. Rather,
give him a nice, warm, friendly smile. A smile that says, "Hi. I
know we don't know each other. I'm attracted to you and I hope
the feeling is mutual. If it is, let's get to know each other
better. If it isn't, I respect that and will leave you alone."
After you've established eye contact and smiled, if he keeps
walking, at least you tried. If he stops, say hi to him and ask
him what his name is. Try to start a casual conversation with
him. If he has anything on the ball, he'll know you're attracted
to him. If he's interested in you and he's a good prospect,
he'll encourage the conversation.
If you see him on a regular or semi regular basis, after you
talk with him for a while, end the conversation without asking
him out until you see him again. Then, when you see each other
again, pick up the conversation where you left off. If he
doesn't ask you out and you think he's interested say, "Maybe we
could get together sometime for lunch."
If he responds favorably, make plans to get together with him.