First Date Chemistry
Although the nervousness of a first date can somewhat hamper
the flow of your true and wonderful personality, there are a few
signs that you'll notice when things are really going great. The
conversation will flow. There will be a natural rhythm to the
dialogue, each person contributing and taking turns in the
spotlight. You'll enjoy listening to them tell you their tales,
and you'll know that they are paying attention to what you have
to say.
The sparks will be there. The flirtation will be high, natural
and lighthearted. There will be more touching at the end of the
date than there was in the beginning. Let there be laughter.
Easy, natural humor, laughter, giggles, smiles and comic relief
all add to the pleasure and ease of the date.
Ask yourself, 'what is it that would make you more comfortable"?
What could they do for you that would make it go smoother for
you? When you answer those questions, you can turn tables and do
exactly that for them
o Give them a warm smile o Make eye contact. Looking at someone
directly in the eye gives the sense that you're open, honest,
and paying attention. o Make them feel welcome by reaching out
to them, pulling them closer into your personal space. o
Compliment them on their appearance and accomplishments. o Draw
them into a conversation and then be interested in their
responses. o Be kind, polite, attentive to their needs,
gracious, and chivalrous (for men) o Be relaxed with them and
let them follow suit.
Where to go?
A first date should be short and sweet. Since you're at the
initial stages of discovering more about each other, a long date
may be more than you can handle. It may become uncomfortable if
you find that really don't have much in common, or that you've
run out of things to talk about. If the date goes well, then a
shorter date will leave you both wanting for more. You'll part
with a pleasant feeling, looking forward for more contact.
Decide
o A full dinner may be too long and complicated. It may involve
more of an expense than desired or expected. o A movie or a
concert doesn't allow to you speak with each other. o All
all-day skiing trip could be tortuous if the chemistry doesn't
happen, and could give rise too all sorts of complications that
could bring out the worst in one or both parties. o A company
party or family event has obvious pitfalls and traps
Instead first dates can take place at a coffee shop, over lunch,
or at a comfortable bar over a drink. If you've determined that
you both have dogs, you could've a first date walking them in
the park and getting an ice cream from the vendor. A sporting
event may be acceptable if both parties really have an interest
in the event.
We had started this part with a quote, and let me end it with
another quote:
"The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in
any love story. It changes the relationship of two people, much
more strongly than even the final surrender, because this kiss
already has within it that surrender"