Ask For And Go For What You Want
Do you think that brand new laptop that you saw at Circuit city
will just magically appear in your home, or what about those
projects that you know you need to start, do you think they will
start themselves? Hey, what about that quiet time that you
really need? Do you think your children will magically disappear
for a few hours after drawing you a nice hot bubble bath? Heck
So, think to yourself. What is on your wish list? Is it starting
your own business, have a monthly date night with your
significant other, have some quality time to yourself? Also ask
yourself, Have I kept this wish list to myself? Please tell me
that you are not waiting for your friends, loved ones, coworker
or those you network with to read your mind and then hand
deliver what you are secretly wishing for.
At times we may keep our mouths closed and not ask for what we
want out of fear of rejection or fear of seeming pushy or needy.
For most women, just the thought of asking other for help or for
a favor is enough to keep their mouths shut and their dreams far
In order to ask for and go after what you want, it is important
to get clear about what you want and be able to describe it in
detail.. Once you know what you want, be totally willing to ask
for it whenever you get the chance. This holds true in your
business and personal relationships.
It is important to learn that is okay for someone to say "No".
It is also important to learn that it is ok for any given
situation to not turn out the way you hoped it to go. Failure
and/or rejections do not have to be the final word, actually it
can be the opening for further negotiation. Take time to reflect
on what happened. Were you specific about what you wanted? Did
you approach the correct person, did you communicate yourself
clearly? And most importantly, 'How can your refine your request
for the next time you ask it? Next, make list of the people who
come to mind when you think of what you want. For instance, if
you want to start your own Virtual Assistance business, why not
search online for forums or websites that specialize in that
area. If you find such a forum, acquaint yourself with the
members and simply introduce yourself and ask for advice,
guidance and help. The only way people can help you is if you
let them know that you need help.
You will be amazed at how many people truly enjoy lending a hand
to others, and just think, the more you grown and learn, the
more hands you can to lend a helping hand to others as well.