Life Lessons at the Gym
Have you ever noticed how one absolutely pertinent life lesson
sometimes sneaks up on you SMACK IN THE MIDDLE of another
context? I think many of us have experienced this "Aha!"
connection.
For example, a couple of years ago, I was working hard at
"stepping out" into the world more boldly and becoming more
visible, particularly in my business. At the same time I was
also taking voice lessons. I remember one particular lesson in
which my voice teacher kept repeating to me, almost shouting,
"You need to take up more space!"
Well, it happened again this morning, in a full,
multi-dimensional way! During my spinning class, many areas of
my current learning got reinforced. First, "what's spinning?"
you might ask. Spinning is a popular form of cardio-workout
class offered at many fitness centers. Participants and teacher
ride a special stationary bike with sensitive controls for
adjusting resistance. Setting the resistance very high simulates
the experience of riding a bike up a steep hill. Although the
teacher leads the class through a finely tuned workout of hills,
intervals, sprints, and so forth, each person can work at her
own level.
This morning, I heard the instructions and immediately realized
they applied on more than one level. My antennae were up and
wiggling. I was so delighted with it, I immediately thought of
sharing it with you. Here's how it played out, in no particular
order.
FEEL THE FOCUS IN THE ROOM
Early on, the teacher said, "Feel the focus in the room." The
combination of energy and intention in the spinning room was
palpable, powerful, inspiring. When you surround yourself with
like-minded people, the collective intention and focus support
everyone. The whole is somehow much greater than the sum of the
parts. The corollary is that the well-meaning "support" of
people in your life who are not aligned with you can be "the
kind of help we all could do without." Sometimes that
"alignment" is hard to define; it isn't a straightforward
matter. Look deeper when you sense some distrust or doubt from a
supportive person. The words may be right, but the spirit or
intention may be off-kilter and not what you need at this time.
STRONG LEGS, STRONG MIND
During our first climb, she said, "Strong legs, strong mind."
The learning here is to pay attention to both the muscle and the
intention. We often focus just on the "legs" and forget the
mind. We implement a strategy to increase our income but don't
deal with our core ambivalence about money. We want to be more
effective at work but our attention is scattered. Where you look
is where you go: how well you focus your mind is as critical to
your success as the efficiency of your "pedal strokes." Keep
your larger intention clear and conscious for yourself. The legs
often take care of themselves.
MUSIC MAKES IT ALL MORE FUN
Having great music playing converts the work into play, turns
the workout into dance, transforms difficulty into exhilaration.
What's music to you? Where in your life do you need to turn it
on or turn it UP? (or turn it OFF?)
SMIDGEONS COUNT
After we increased resistance several times on one of our
"hills," the teacher said, "Turn your resistance up a smidgeon.
And by the way, 'smidgeon' is in the dictionary. I looked it
up." Next steps count, no matter how small they are. Whether
you're expanding your workout zone by one heartbeat a minute,
recovering from a "failure" more quickly than the last time, or
driving to the airport for the first time - SMALL STEPS COUNT!
In fact, they are THE PRIMO medium of personal growth and
evolution. Let's face it - quantum transformational leaps are
not often an option for most of us mortals. But at any moment in
your life, next steps are always visible to you - small steps
you are capable of taking. Think of 'smidgeon' as a highly
technical term in the realm of personal growth.
YIN AND YANG
Pedaling a bike is a circular motion, but we naturally emphasize
the down stroke. In spinning, we're supposed to pedal as hard on
the up stroke as on the down stroke. We need the teacher's
countless reminders, "Equal strokes up and down!" Another way
she helps is to pace us. She has us bring our heart rate up to
our cardio range (the higher range of heart beats per minute
that gives us a cardiovascular workout), keep it there for a
while, and then bring it down to our "recovery range." She leads
us through this cycle a few times during the 45-minute class.
This is applied workout technology: these cycles are efficient
ways to get the most out of an exercise program. So what's the
lesson here? Up is as important as down. Rest is as important as
work. Stopping is as important as going. Relaxed is as important
as pumped. Down time is as important as up time. What are YOU
discounting??
HAVE A TEACHER
It makes a difference to have a teacher! And having an excellent
teacher is the best! What are you trying to do on your own that
you'd do much better, faster and more enjoyably with a teacher?
This needn't be seen as a weakness; we don't need to be totally
self-sufficient. Be aware of where you're struggling and keep an
eye out for your teacher. You know, "when the student is ready,
the teacher will appear." (And what are YOU ready to teach?)
GO FOR IT
During a particularly hard part of the workout, the teacher
said, repeatedly, "Go for it!" The music was thumping, my
endorphins were pumping, and I was totally "going for it."
Making an all-out effort in one part of your life supports you
to do so in any other part of your life. It builds your
credibility with yourself as a person who can "do 100%." Try it.
Taste it. Feel it. You'll like it. You'll even thirst for more
opportunities to go for it.
GIVE YOURSELF A HAND
At the end of the class, when we had cooled down and stretched
out, the teacher said, "Give yourselves a hand for a really good
workout." We did, proudly. Acknowledging yourself is such a
simple, inexpensive, powerful way to keep yourself motivated!
Yet I bet you don't do it nearly enough. You wouldn't dream of
working your staff, your students, or your kids as hard as you
work yourself without thanking them and acknowledging them for
their hard work! And mean it when you do.
THANK YOU
Special thanks to my excellent Tuesday morning spinning teacher,
Debby Fertig. Also to my other terrific spinning teachers: Andy
Bergman, Nancy Jenney, and Joan Tufenkjian. Thanks to the Mt.
Auburn Club in Watertown, MA for offering spinning classes
throughout the week.
COACHING TIPS:
1. Pick a "spinning lesson" that speaks to you from the list
above.
2. Name an arena in your life where you would like to apply that
principle.
3. Think of a way you could apply that principle.
4. Do it this week.
NO TENSING, NO CLENCHING, NO SHOULDERS
"NO TENSING, NO CLENCHING, NO SHOULDERS," the spinning teacher
tells us as we pedal into a sweat on the stationary bikes. When
you ride a spinning bike, it's the legs that do the work. But if
you're not paying attention, you can add to your workload by
clenching your teeth and tensing your shoulders so they're up to
your ears! This secondary work is not only unnecessary - it's
counterproductive. The teacher's reminder is helpful. All it
takes is consciousness and intention to relax the parts that
don't need to be working.
You can apply this principle in so many ways! When you are on a
tight schedule, you can remember to breathe. When you are
challenged by a work project, you can still take a relaxed lunch
break. When you are stressing about SOMEthing, you don't need to
stress about EVERYthing.
Where can you apply this in your life? All it takes is
consciousness and intention. No tensing, no clenching, no
shoulders!
If you're considering hiring a coach to help you with challenges
like these, contact me at sharon@stcoach.com for an initial
consultation at no charge.
Copyright 2003, Sharon Teitellbaum. All rights reserved.