Contrary to how it is sometimes presented in the media, living single is not a condition to be cured. It is a valid life choice for many people.

It's a totally acceptable choice if you would rather be alone. In fact, being alone is always preferable to being with someone and wishing you were alone.

We are built for relationships

At the same time, when asked, most singles say that one of theri top life goals is to find someone to be with in a long term committed relationship. This is normal and human, as we were created for relationships.

The danger is to then focus all your energy on finding the right person. Too many people go on an endless and frustrating search for the right person. While finding the righr person is important, it's neither the most important nor the first thing to do.

The first and most important step is to focus on becoming the right person. For most of us, that by itself is a full time job. Part of becoming the right person is building a life that is fulfilling and compelling. This accomplishes as least two important things:

1. You are happy in your life as it is, and

2. Your life is so attractive that another person would enjoy being a part of it.

5 Crucial Questions

While we all may want a relationship, few people stop and ask

"Am I ready for a relationship?"

Here are 5 questions worth asking:

1. Do you know what you want out of life?

2. Do you know what you want in a partner?

3. Do you know what you need in a partner?

4. Are you emotionally freee from previous relationships?

5. Are you commit-able - emotionally ready and able to commit?

Answer these 5 questions for your self and you will be well on the way to becoming the right person.

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