Aging and Mid Life Crisis
Isn't it time to put into action all the things you dream
about? Have you not spent the first 20 years of your life being
trained and conditioned as someone's child or student? Following
all the instructions and rules set forth before you. Remember
those that ended up rebellious always paying the task masters
for that small taste of self expression?
Along comes the next 20 years where we believe that we are
putting into reality our own ideas and life desires. We become
someone's mate, parent, employee and still keep our place that
society has molded for us. We seem to be performing that
wonderful balancing act of keeping everyone in our lives happy
with our choices. Time is passing and something inside tells us
that we aren't fulfilled where we are in life. That all these
choices have been for everyone else in our lives and not for us.
There must be something more out there! Will someone think your
selfish? It sits in the back of our mind and starts showing up
in our dreams. We try to ignore it and yet we become
dissatisfied with the choices we made. Yet, we have no idea what
we would do instead!
Along comes our forties and with it a new found confidence. The
ability to assert ourselves comes to the surface. It's not
always a pretty site and can be somewhat frightening at first
but hang in there because maturity blossoms. They call it a "Mid
Life Crisis" but I like to think of it as a time frame to create
and express who you really are. The truth and nothing but the
truth will free up your mind, heart and soul. Your no longer
looking for approval. You want real friends, loving partners and
people in your life to know that your living life and not just
existing. Don't just become Aging Baby Boomers.
How do you do this? How do you explore yet meet all the
realistic goals of this aging process? Many of us have no one to
ask or to even bounce ideas off of. The generation gaps are to
large and the concepts of what is necessary for a solid future
definitely do not match. We have to learn to share and outsource
our ideas and information. Taking stock of where we are and the
directions we want to take can get that excitement back in our
lives. Set those goals for yourself and share goals with those
you love and share lives with. Skip over the depression stage
and take those thoughts and dreams and find someone to help you
turn them into reality. There are life coaches, financial
advisors, therapists, friends and loved ones who will be able to
help guide you and encourage you on your journey. Have the
desire to enjoy everyday of your life.