5 Tips to Keep a Marriage Exciting
The buildup to the wedding is so exciting; making arrangements,
laying out a plan for your future lives together. But after the
honeymoon ends, life begins. And while you may have the most
wonderful marriage, even the most devoted couple is certain to
find the married lifestyle to be at times, well let's say, less
than exciting. I mean let's face it, you love the other person,
but spending all day with the same individual makes for a lot of
routine activities, that if you are not careful can drag on your
relationship and make you both feel unsatisfied with what is
otherwise a very loving relationship.
As a result, it is vital that couples not simply sit back in
the belief that a marriage will remain exciting merely on its
own momentum. Rather, it is important that spouses take some
basic steps to infuse their relationships with a bit of
excitement.
1. Have Independent Interests
You cannot have anything interesting to say if you spend every
waking moment doing and experiencing the same things. Having
independent interests is not a sign of a weak marriage, as some
newlyweds believe, but rather a sign of its strength. Having
independent interests means that you have something unique to
bring to conversations, ensuring that you both always have
something interesting, and yes exciting, to say to one another.
2. Spontaneous Events
While you were dating, planning the spontaneous event seemed
rather innate. But, as we grow comfortable in our relationships
and more busy by life's obligations, we have a tendency to rely
upon the strength of our relationships and in so doing fail to
keep things spontaneous. So to mix things up; plan an afternoon
or evening event that is completely new. Try that show your
spouse has been dying to see, or visit that new restaurant that
just opened up.
3. Never threaten separation
This is less a rule to keep things exciting, and more one to
keep them sound. A relationship can only grow and remain
exciting if both parties are confident in their commitment to
one another. As a consequence, make it a rule between you and
your partner that you never threaten separation or divorce.
Establish an understanding that if you threaten separation, you
should be heading out the door to back it up. It is a harsh
rule, but one that needs imposition if your relationship is to
survive the ups and downs which are a part of all marriages.
4. Weekend Trips
One sure-fire way to inject some romance into your marriage is
to take a vacation with just the two of you. But with the rigors
of life and the costs of a trip, a full-blown vacation can seem
hard to justify. So instead opt for a one night local vacation.
Plan a dinner and evening out, and cap it off with a night in a
hotel. The expense isn't a lot considering the excitement that a
trip, no matter how small, can bring into a relationship.
5. Spice up the bedroom
The final tip to bring excitement into any relationship is to
spice things up in the bedroom. Your sex life has a strong
correlation with the strength and satisfaction of your
relationship. So try exploring a new position or even a sexual
fantasy or adult toy with your partner, and in so doing share
something intimate and bring some excitement into your marriage.