A friend once said that I have a keen grasp on the obvious. You might have been sarcastically thinking the same thing when you read the title of this article. After all, everyone knows that marriage is not dating. Right?

Wrong. Odds are that either you or your spouse (or both) expected much of what happened while you dated to continue into marriage.

Before and After

Let me illustrate with a typical example. "Jessica" is married to "Will." During their dating years, Jessica wore her hair shoulder-length because she knew Will liked it. Often on Saturdays, she and Will would go watch his favorite team play football. Though Jessica wasn