Your life success can lead to dating success. It is a bad dating strategy to look shaken up by life and be "merely surviving." It is wrong to hope that a woman takes pity on you.

"Success makes sexy" and "Sexy smell of success," they say.

Women love men who know what they want. Women love men who achieve their goals. Taking risks and breaking rules can be a turn-on, including driving fast (This is one of the reasons why hard rockers date models). And men know that women want powerful men. The solution is to ooze success.

In secretly observed female-male flirt encounters scientists found out that most men start to list their "life achievements" shortly after the first "Hello": Where they have been, what they have achieved, what cars they have etc. In other words, production and seduction go hand in hand.

Thus your life success can lead to dating success. It is a bad dating strategy to look shaken up by life and be "merely surviving." It is wrong to hope that a woman takes pity on you.

Perhaps instead of the pick-up line, "Can I buy you a beer?" the pick-up line, "Can I buy you a car?" could work better.

To ooze success you can mention signs of bravery in your life at appropriate parts of the conversation: Do you organize seminars and speak in front of a lot of people? Mention it. Are you are a skydiver? Mention it. Are you are a fire fighter who has saved a life? Mention it.

Finally, dress nicely, because clothes imply success.

You often hear "clothes make the man." That's why it is important to wear nice clothes, e.g. a good shirt and a tie. Not sure what "good" is? You can ask for a female, what clothes they like on men. You can even go clothes-shopping with a female relative or a female co-worker.

Don't wear any garment when it is inappropriate or doesn't suit you. Example: Don't wear a tie and your new shoes while swimming. OK, this is an exaggeration, but imagine yourself going bowling and you wear beautiful but uncomfortable clothes that make you sweat. Or going to the movies with a Hawaiian T-shirt.

On the other hand (since you are looking for a girlfriend anywhere) dress well whenever and wherever you go.

You go shopping? Shave and dress well.

You go to an exhibition? Shave and dress well.

You go to a football game? Shave and dress well.

Another important thought: Woman are usually very "clothes-aware." In fact they communicate through clothes and make-up (they wear shorter skirts and redder lipstick to show they are dateable). Thus by wearing good clothes, you establish immediately a communication line, too.

Important note: A lot of women pay a attention to shoes

Yair Czitrom
Jewish dating - www.jaters.com

Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of www.jaters.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills as a dater and as an IT pro to help other daters/singles in today