Is your life a juggling act? Do you feel pulled in all directions, as if you have lost control of your life? What has happened to the successful life you dreamed of as you grew up?

It seems that life has played a joke on many of us. The dream life we always wanted is still out there, unfulfilled. Without conscious thought, the focus of our activities turned to responding to responsibilities and interruptions of everyday living. Somewhere between starting a career, getting married and having a children, dreams were set aside to handle the changes in our daily life styles. Time for self-care was set aside in order to care for your spouse/partner, children and job.

True success comes from having a balanced life; a love of life, joy in daily living and being your true self. I believe that you can begin today to create the life you really want.

There are people and blessings in your life today that bring much joy and happiness. In order for you to notice your blessings, and appreciate these people, acknowledge them and treasure them. I want to remind you that you are a blessing unto yourself! You will want to acknowledge the various roles that comprise the whole you, honor and take care of each one.

How do you begin to do this? First, do not rush the process. Give yourself the time to absorb what you learn. Second, grow. As you learn more about yourself, you will develop new insights and your connection to your family and the world at large. Third, have fun. Take each role seriously, but maintain a sense of humor.

Strategies to unravel your roles

1. The first step is to be aware of all the roles you play in the course of a day, week or month. You may be very surprised at how many roles you play. The role depends on whom you are interacting with at a given moment.

Make a list of the various roles you play and them prioritize them. For example, your list may include (but not limited to):