10 Golden Rules For Successful Online Dating
10 Golden Rules For Successful Online dating
As everyone knows, the favourite method of mating and dating for
singletons the world over is to join an online dating site. But
what most people don't realise is that only around 10% of dating
site members actually meet a long-term partner on their chosen
site and a whopping 70% don't even receive one message from
another member. If you follow the 10 simple steps outlined
below, you too can join the 10% who find love and romance on
line.
1. Choose the right site. The boom in online dating has provided
a plethora of choice for consumers but you should take a few
moments to decide on the type of partner you're looking for, not
to mention the town or city where you would prefer him/her to be
located. There are niche sites which cater to all sectors
(single parents, bikers, gay people etc) and general sites which
welcome all comers just as there are city or country specific
sites and sites with a global perspective. Choosing the right
site for you is probably the most important decision you'll make
when looking for a partner on line.
2. Choose a great username. First impressions always last and
the on line identity which you give yourself is the first thing
that other members will see before they check-out your profile.
'Funny' works, 'cryptic' works and you wont go far wrong even if
you decide to use your own christian name; but if you go down
the smutty or sexually suggestive route (which a lot of guys
seem to do), you'll find that other members will give you a wide
berth.
3. Upload a photo. This is crucial as a significant percentage
of people only search for members who have bothered to include a
pic; you want to see what other members look like so it stands
to reason that other people will feel the same way about you. If
the only photo you have isn't particularly flattering, you can
always mention that in your profile - it's still better than no
photo at all.
4. Complete your profile. There's nothing more off-putting than
a profile which screams "I can't be bothered to do this
properly". If you don't have time to complete all the categories
when you are signing-up, then make the time to do so at the
earliest opportunity.
5. Be upbeat and positive. If you're feeling a little down or
lacking in confidence, now isn't the time to say so when you're
writing a description of yourself. If you come across as
confident, happy and full of fun, you'll get much more attention
than if you come across as mono-syllabic or down in the dumps.
And remember, humour is a real ice-breaker and a great
aphrodisiac.
6. Widen your search criteria. If you generally go for people
who have blonde hair, blue eyes and are between 5'4" and 5'6"
and you narrow your search down to just these specifics, then
you may be missing out on a great many other members who you'll
also find just as attractive. To start with, just search by
gender, age and location and that way you'll be giving yourself
the widest possible choice.
7. Don't automatically dismiss people. If you receive a message
from someone who's profile you like but who hasn't bothered to
include a photo, you should still write back and ask them to
send a pic to your regular email address. You'll find that many
people are more willing to do this than post a pic for all and
sundry to look at.
8. Use all the features on offer. Many sites provide a great
deal more than just an internal emailing system. Some sites
might include voice messaging whilst others like CupidNights.com enable
members to chat and flirt in 'real time' with other members and
the more you take advantage of everything that's available to
you, the more chance you have of making contact with someone
special.
9. Be proactive. Once you've registered and completed your
profile, don't wait for others to make contact with you. When
you spot someone who you think might be a good fit with
yourself, write to them and introduce yourself. And don't just
say 'Hi, I like your profile', tell them why you've written to
them and point out the things that you believe you have in
common. A long opening message will create a much better
impression than a short, perfunctory one.
10. Check back with the site. Most popular dating sites have new
people joining all the time so remember to log-in at least once
every day to view the most recent members and you can then
contact anyone you like the look of before others get the chance
to do so. Also, you should remember that on most sites, the
members who log-in the most appear higher up the search listings
than those who don't so your profile will be easier to spot by
people with whom you might be compatible.
So there you have it - successful online dating is not rocket
science; it just takes a bit of thought and a bit of effort and
if you adhere to the 10 rules that I have outlined above, then
your personal life will soon receive the kick-start it deserves.