Take Control of Your Unfinished Business

What unfinished business is constantly gnawing at you? Is there someone you need to forgive? Is there someone you need to apologize to? Is there something you need to resolve? You're not alone. Most of us have some kind of unfinished business in our lives, whether it is something big or small. However, in order for us to move towards the next phase in your life, it's important that we get closure on our unfinished business. Before you can resolve to live a successful life, it's important that you take care of your unfinished business. By honoring your commitments to yourself and to others, you are creating an authentic life. When you have unresolved issues hanging over your head, you are burdened with guilt and shame. So, how can you work on getting some of your unfinished business resolved?

1. Forgive yourself and stop the blame game. Face the truth about the situation and make amends with it. Explore the deeper truths about why you have not yet forgiven yourself. Do you feel unworthy of forgiveness? Write a letter to yourself with forgiveness of any past wrong doings.

2. Forgive someone who has hurt you. The more you hold on to the hurt, the more the pain remains fresh and new. Forgive the person, even if they refuse to acknowledge that they have hurt you. Forgiveness is not about them, it's about you.

3. Avoid pile up in your life. Have you been unreliable in the past? Stop the cycle now by not making any promises you can not keep and keeping the promises you make. Let people know that they can depend on you.

4. Confront yourself or someone else in your life. Is there someone you need to resolve an issue with? Are you silently resenting this person? Do you have some resentment towards yourself for a decision you made in the past? You can not undo the past. Let it go and move on.

5. Get closure. Decide to move on. Don't let the situation control your life, but you control the situation. Sometimes the answer we're looking for isn't the answer we get. Instead of trying to force an outcome, step away and surrender.

Marie Magdala Roker is a Personal Development Coach an Author of Successful Thinking for a Successful Life: How to Banish the Unhealthy Thoughts and Habits That Limit Your Success. You can find out more at: http://www.smartbeecoaching.com She also offers the Successful Thinking