Worry/Anxiety

Anxiety and its partner, worry,' are specific forms of fear. They can also be some of the most insidious and crippling emotions.

Worry can be useful if it motivates you to take action to make changes. Worry then becomes action.

Worry becomes a problem when we believe the big lie that "if only I worry enough about this, it will be OK"

The best definition I've ever heard of anxiety goes like this:

"Anxiety is when we mentally fastforward - to some possible future problem and our emotions catch up to match up our picture."

In other words, anxiety is often caused by repeatedly picturing negative outcomes and then dragging our emotions along for the ride.

Fear

All of us must deal with fear in our lives. As a matter of fact, people who tell me they are never afraid tend to scare me.

It's my experience that they are lying, or worse.

Fear is so common that we can identify several general fears that are familiar to all of us. Here is a partial list of fears I hear about regularly in my office: