We have been used to sexy, flirty light hearted looks all through Spring and Summer. This Autumn Winter Season, instead of the expected glamourously sexy looks we have come to expect, the fashion world decided to do something completely different. Sexy is so out. Now, romantic, genteel, ladylike styles that grandma used to wear are the hottest in thing.

That leaves us with a problem. Now our entire wardrobe is passe. What used to be sexy is now tarty. Time to rebuild your wardrobe from scratch.

Since the trend now is towards well tailored, high quality, hard to knock off clothing, aim for ladylike chic. Think of Grace Kelly. Even Lady Diana. Now what would they wear?

The look goes beyond princess like looks. It is now a cross between Cinderella and Goth. Dark, somber colors in luxurious styles, brimming with romantic details fit for that fairy tale princess, who somehow, ended up with Count Dracula.

Enough whining. Time to whip that wardrobe into shape. First, focus on quality, not quantity.

Pick 9 gorgeous pieces that are very now. These basics are all you need to rebuild your Autumn and Winter wardrobe from scratch. Prepare to look totally chic as the temperatures fall. Every piece has to be really well made. Go for the best you can afford. The look for this season is ladylike chic. The kind that demands and gets respect.

Get ready for plenty of somber black, plum, deep colors with a light touch from pink clothes to lift things a little.

Choose your color scheme. Pick 3 colors in tune with the season's gothic romance mode. Black, plum and bright pink, or Navyblue, gray and pale pink are some ideas you could work with. Pick colors that you look your best in and which go with one another. Alternatively, try a striking combination of black, white and red.

Once you have decided on your color scheme, stick with it. That way, everything in your wardrobe goes with everything else, giving you countless looks from those few pieces.

Feel free to choose items with frills, ribbons and other romantic details as these define this season's romantic fashion trends.

#1 1 gorgeous winter coats or a fur vest. This is going to be your main look whenever you are outdoors. The fur vest is the latest thing for this fall, winter season though. And it really dresses up everything you wear it with. Even a pair of jeans looks formal when you wear a fur vest.

#2 1 perfectly tailored women's suits in any of your 3 chosen colors. A well tailored skirt and jacket combination that is feminine and versatile. This is something you can wear everyday. You could wear it with a blouse for work, and switch to a lacy camisole for a dinner date. You could wear the jacket and skirt (or pants if that is what you prefer) in the suit as separates.

#3 Ok. I know that feminine, loose floaty clothes are in. What with the tulip skirt and all. But seriously. Who wants to have hips that look even larger than reality? No, you still need a pair of jeans. I don't care what the fashion magazines or designers dish out to us. Women have a right to wear clothes that flatter the real figure. What is hot, has always been hot and always will be hot is a pair of tight jeans. A pair that makes you look your very best. You wear the clothes, not the other way around.

#4 Wool tights, pantyhose or stockings. Again for warmth and class. to keep your legs warm when you wear a skirt or a dress. In autumn and winter, you need warm, practical tights especially when your legs are exposed.

#5 A romantic, floaty blouse that is so now. This time around, the look is romantic. The oversized man style shirt wouldn't do. You need something romantic. The blouse is the new season's must have.

#6 A beautiful dress. What could be more romantic than a dress. Dresses are hot this season, especially now that the romantic look is big. You need at least 1 blouse in your new wardrobe.

#7 A pair of boots that go with everything in your new wardrobe. They keep you warm they are versatile and give your outfit an edge. Ok, so if you want to go with the ladylike vibe, then a pair of stacked heel loafers would be more in order.

#8 A pair of leather gloves to keep your hands warm and which which look really sleek. Who needs fat hands? Leather gloves keep you warm without that added bulk.

#9 A knit top to stretch your wardrobe further. The classic every autumn and winter is the turtle neck. It looks elegant and keeps your neck warm. If your neck is short and you do look like a turtle in a turtle neck, then try a v-neck top but remember to wear scarves when you go out.

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