Relocate - How, When I
Many people ask me how I can go on... What makes me want to keep
going... I guess it's my childhood faith This is just one part
of my story!
How can I relocate??
As you may know I'm from Sweden, mother of 2 children, I live
with the father of my youngest. My son (he is 8 years old) has
been through a living hell the past year. He's been abused by
older children, beaten, bullied and so on... Because of this we
have been trying to relocate to another area. But as I'm heavily
in debt it seems to be a mission impossible. It doesn't matter
that my spouse has no debts, landlords are blind because of
mine.
We have tried just about anything to get another apartment, even
going as far as asking the government and social welfare for
aid, but have been turned down. We have shown interest in at
least 250 apartments in the past 6 months, that means everything
that has been on the market, but we have been turned away. We
have even tried to separate, but because of my debts again, not
even my spouse has been able to get an apartment alone.
The worst thing in all this, is that my sons health is being
affected. Affected by the fact that he can't go outdoors. He's
been held under involuntary house arrest for more then 7 months,
poor darling. In another country, someone would have helped to
put an end to this, but not here in Sweden, where you don't
count if you have debts. Not even if a child suffers will you
get help. It doesn't even matter if you've never been late
paying your rent.
My son is frustrated and he's taking it out on us all,
especially on his 2 year old little sister. It has put a strain
on all of us and we are all being affected by this. My son is
never happy anymore. But still, as long as this has been going
on, no one has lifted a finger to even try to help.
It's a shame on the so called social welfare system, that they
don't protect those who are in need. According to Swedish law it
is a crime. A crime towards those who need that aid, especially
children in need. But that is a law seldom followed by the
government.
As I never will be able to pay off my debts, our struggle is
hopeless, we will never be able to leave and my son will have to
suffer until he grows up and can move away on his own. The only
way to be free is to pay off the debts, and I am doing that
every month, but with the interest rate ticking that is another
mission impossible. All I have for an income is a very small
sick - pension.
Being a mother of 2 and not being able to protect my oldest
child from harm and keeping him safe is hard on me. I keep
wondering for how long I will cope, how long can I go on trying,
fighting the battle to be able to relocate to a safer place.
I am scared about so much when it comes to my son, scared that
in the end he will hurt himself and/or his little sister. I am
trying so hard but nobody gives a bit of consideration to the
fact that an 8 year old is in danger, abused and beaten by a 16
year old and his friends.
All that counts is money, and freedom from debts.
Then why is it so hard? Well, it seems as my partner's freedom
from debts doesn't count at all, and it doesn't count that the
rent here has been paid in full and on time for 8 years either.
It's the landlords' market here in Sweden... so few apartments
and so many in need, that they can choose who they want, one
with debts will always end up at the bottom of the list, being
the last one they will pick.
So I blame it on the market you might think?..... Well in a way,
yes I do.... and also part of it on society, as it's a shame to
be in debt and poor in this country. Fact is, you can never get
free from your debts either, it's a lifetime sentence. Once you
have got them, you'll never be free because you keep on paying
for the interest only. Nothing goes back to the original amount
and you end up deeper and deeper in debt.
And nobody cares if you got yourself in debt due to things out
of your control. You must always blame yourself you see.
So if you ever live in Sweden and are in need of
relocation...make sure you don't get into debt or even have an
unpaid bill...because nobody will help you if you do.
I know, I'm living proof of it.
You see, I once was married, was abused, got divorced and became
ill, that's how I got my debts.... so I have to blame myself for
not being able to protect my child today.... blame myself for
not being able to relocate.