Make new friends
Making new friends is an art by itself, as most of us do fail
miserably in creating a long list of friends. The more friends
you make, more will you grow in your social stature and
personality. To make new friends, you'll need to adopt friendly
nature, as well as a sweet disposition. There are lots of ways
you can make new friends every day and every year. However, you
may need to develop certain positive traits to make new friends;
being extrovert or outgoing is probably a deciding factor while
making new friends. A good circle of friends is a treasure to
own, and such a group will help you grow as a person.
It takes a tremendous effort to make new friends; plainly
speaking, friendship is made out of mutual trust and belief. It
does take a while to develop mutual trust and belief, as no one
will trust you in the initial stages of friendship. Experts
suggest that, to make new friends, you may need to get close,
within the acceptable circle of association with your future
friend. This is also often called the culture barrier, an
emotional barrier which usually prevents people from getting
close to each other. Once this barrier is breached, you may
start creating a meaningful friendship.
There are several ways of making new friends and each person has
his/her own methods to make friends. Here is one of the more
popular methods that are used to create friendship:
To make a new friend, you may have to create a situation where
the other person feels at ease and comfortable with your
mannerism and attitude. Never allow your future friend to get
bored with your talk. Rude manners and boorishness are a strict
no-no. Simplest of all known formulas to make a new friend is
using an innovative FORM system.
FORM system is known to create a good atmosphere to develop
friendship or even companionship. FORM simply means Family,
Occupation, Recreation and Message. Most of us just love our
families, relatives and close friends. When you enquire any
person about his/her family, you're making sure that his/her
immediate concerns are first addressed, which draws that person
towards your circle, a slow step by step. Every one of us loves
to tell more about our parents, wives, children and pets. Once
you know more about the family status of your would-be friend,
the next obvious step is to enquire about occupation that is
being followed by your future friend. We also love to brag about
our occupation, job and positions. By enquiring about
occupation, you're ensuring that you are coming much closer to
other person's inner circle. The third step is to talk casually
about their pet hobbies, pastime, favorite sports and leisure.
During this stage you're probably inching towards a certain
friendship with that person. Talk anything about those wonderful
hobbies and sports. Exchange views and ideas, which are mutually
beneficial to both of you.
Probably the most important step is the "Message" step, when you
should leave out a message that is easy to remember by the other
person. This final message must also bear your address and
contact number in form of a visiting card. Message may include
something about your name, profession, address and your honest
opinion about the person whom you're trying to make new friends
with. Never forget to say thank you at the end of the
conversation and always keep your options open, to decide if you
want to be friends with the other person. Follow up with that
person if you're keen on making a new friendship. But remember
friendships are about give and take, and supporting each other.
Never hurt their sentiments and emotions in any manner. Be
courteous and gentle, especially if the other person happens to
be a woman or a girl.