Building Solid Relationship Using the Power of Daily Positive
Words
Never under estimate the power of words. You see the words we
utter daily may have different interpretations, even if you
think that they mean the same thing.
- Here's an example of a daily positive words.
Would you rather have someone tell you that you are "slim," or
would you like to hear that you are "thin?" Being slim has a
slightly positive effect because it is attributed to health and
fitness.
Another example of using positive word of power is; rather than
saying you have failed, just mention that you have not yet
achieved success. Get the picture? Always try to speak positive
words in the most positive manner you can think of.
- Here's another important advice.
Never compare the negative qualities of one person with another.
A former boss of mine has this to say to me when I made an error
in my previous day job, "Steven (not real name) is doing a much
better job than you are. He's not committing any mistake like
you do."
The power of words - negative in this case, crushed my heart. My
boss thought that he wanted to motivate me to do better.
However, all he succeeded was just hurting my feelings and
lowered my self-esteem. Of course, I would never make the same
mistake again after his harsh scolding. I've learned my lesson
well. But he could have said it in a positive manner instead.
Experiences arising from discouragement and condemnation will
have a negative effect on the recipient.
Are you a good dad or good mum? In the hope of improving the
performance of their children, some parents might believe that
instilling fear on their children would work. They would say,
"You're no comparison to your sister, you're always failing.
Look at yourself, what a disgrace to this family."
Instead of uttering such negative words, they should inspire,
encourage, and motivate their children; not belittle them even
further. They should tell their children that they have the
capacity to achieve great things, if they would only put a
little more e fort. Teach them values that would make them feel
important and loved.
You may even go as far as giving them qualities that they do not
yet possess. By giving them confidence and by making them
believe that they have such characteristics, they will
eventually acquire such traits. Tell them how bright you think
they are, and you will soon be surprised at the results. They
will significantly improve if you firmly made them believe that
they have the capacity to do so through the use of daily
positive words.
So if you ever wanted to persuade or encourage someone to do
better, make sure that he or she is motivated out of
inspiration, and not out of fear. Give advice that cares, and
not offensive words borne out of hatred or anger. Think first
before you speak. Many relationships have been ruined by the
wrong choice of words. Some people voice out anything that comes
to their mind, without first filtering the good words from the
bad ones. This might result in misunderstandings and arguments,
which could have easily been prevented if we speak out in a way
that is neutral and non-offensive. Words are very powerful
indeed. Use words of power responsibly for the benefit of all.