My Own Worst Enemy
Did you ever asked yourself "who is my own worst enemy"? Do you
consider criminals roaming the dark street as your worst enemy?
How about your boss who's killing you mentally and emotionally
with stress and harsh words? The people in office who are
engaging in graft and corruption, instead of helping those in
need?
When something failed to work, we have many implications of who
our enemies are; but we have one common foe who is the main
cause of our failures and misfortunes, and we're not even aware
of this opponent. You may not want to admit it, but our own
worst enemy is ourselves.
Take for instance you are leading a few other colleagues in an
important project for your company you work for. You and your
team belongs to the steering committee but things seem to go
wrong everywhere. Who do you blame when something goes wrong?
You blame the people around you, the weather, maybe even God.
But we are the ones who are in control of ourselves. We can
change the outcome of our lives because we have the capacity to
do that.
Ask yourself, it is our fear, jealousy, greed, etc. that is
ruining our lives. Some people who never managed to get out of
poverty blame the government or their jobs. Some even take their
anger and frustration to the streets and wave their banners in
demonstration in front of parliament house. But they're too
afraid to try out new ventures that may improve their lives.
They drag themselves to go to work on their 9 to 5 jobs. Then
when the day is done, they watch TV and go out aimlessly having
fun without seriously thinking of what great opportunity the
future has in store for them, if only they would try to do
something different with their lives.
Fear is your worst enemy Fear has caused many to remain frigid
and to never go out exploring the wonderful things this world
has to offer. Lots of people would rather stay where they are in
an unsatisfied state than to risk difficulties and obstacles for
the sake of attaining their dreams. They find excuses for
themselves not to try anything new. Befor they even start, they
start telling themselves that their family will not support
their idea anyway, and so they never take any action.
Jealousy and envy has also caused some relationship problems.
Some people immediately jump to conclusions without first
analyzing the situation. They let their sudden emotions control
their behaviors without even thinking of the consequences that
may result. As a result, if they're having problems with their
relationships, they have no one else to blame but themselves.
They have themselves to blame, if their lives are not getting
any better.
This goes to show that we decide what will happen to us and we
can control the outcome. Even under circumstances that are
beyond our control, like natural calamities, we can still
utilize to our best advantage the things that we have control
of.
For instance, you got rejected by your dream girl. Some would
just get drunk and feel miserable, thinking that it's the end of
the world. Some will move onwards with their lives and find the
best in what remains with them. See? It's really up to you. You
decide if you want to have a good life or not.
You failed in your exams? So what? There's always another
opportunity. Either you just sulk in sorrow or you can study
harder to get a high score in the future. It's really up to you.
Don't cry over spilled milk. Concentrate on how you could get
better in the future instead of get frustrated over your
misfortunes. .
If we encounter problems, we can either succumb to it, or we can
treat it as an opportunity to become stronger and to become
better individuals. Winners would always treat their dilemmas as
opportunities while losers would see problems in every
opportunity and run away without a second thought.
Oh yes. As yourself again "Who is my own worst enemy?". But your
worst enemy can also be your best friend. It's all up to you!