Nix the Mind-Reader Approach

The key to any relationship is communication, communication, and communication! So what happens when your significant other simply thinks you can read everything that they are thinking? It happens all the time. By excluding details of a situation one side of the relationship can subliminally create a war of words and automatically be armed with the dreaded "you don't understand me" attack. "Mind-reader" syndrome conquers many couples without them even knowing it. Day to day social interaction often pits feelings against assumptions. When this happens it often means that one individual may be suppressing his or her feelings, causing a lack of communication skills. People exhibiting these problems are everywhere and simply believe that their partner just magically knows the way they feel all of the time. The ability to love or be loved does not grant mystical powers to read minds or feelings to anyone in a relationship. Often just explaining your needs and thoughts clearly can prove to be a start in solving the mind-reader syndrome. Solving the problem completely can be a unique and difficult problem. Use the list below to help focus, and determine the root of the mind-reader problem. Ask yourself these questions whenever disagreements surface. Clarifying your own needs can lesson or prevent additional problems in the future as well as increasing past problems that still linger. Consider these questions: 1. What am I feeling at this exact second? 2. What do I want my partner to know at this particular second that they might not realize? 3. What are the things I am assuming now and up until now? 4. Is anything about how I act immature? Does the tone in my voice or subtle actions deflect and reroute my true feelings? Does my partner misinterpret what I really mean?