How Would You Score in the Dating Olympics?
The XX Winter Olympic Games are in full swing in Torino, Italy,
with athletes from around the globe vying to bring home the
gold. Back at home, those in the dating game face equally stiff
challenges - the difficulty in meeting the "right" people,
synchronizing overfilled calendars to schedule a date, and
creating that medal-winning first impression.
Although I'm in a long-term relationship and thus have removed
myself from the competition, I understand the hurdles faced by
those in the dating game. As the founder of lunchSpark (www.lunchSpark.com), an
online lunch networking and dating
community, I'm trying to bridge the gap between the virtual
and real worlds. The site is equal parts meet-and-greet and restaurant
reviews, and moves ahead of traditional online network and
dating sites by taking the connection to the next level: meeting
over lunch. When it comes to dating, lunch is a fun, casual way
to connect, without the stress of traditional evening dates.
Just as every Olympic athlete has a unique approach to his or
her chosen sport, those in the dating game have their own
strategies for coming up a winner. The following quiz will help
you define your style in the Dating Olympics.
Select the one answer for each question that most reflects your
feelings.
1. Does the concept of speed dating - a round robin where you
spend three minutes with each of 20 potential dates - appeal to
you?
a. Sure! It's a great way to immediately know whether or not you
click with a potential date
b. No way! I can't get a sense of who a person is in only three
minutes.
c. Definitely! I know exactly what I'm looking for, and speed
dating would let me compare each person to my mental checklist.
2. What's your feeling about blind dates?
a. I have nothing to lose, and I'm intrigued by the mystery of a blind date.
b. I love the unexpected, and can always find a way to have fun
on a blind date.
c. I can't stand blind dates. I want to be the one to choose who
I go out with.
3. What type of first date most appeals to you: meeting for
coffee, lunch, or dinner?
a. Dinner - I like the variables and the open-ended nature of an
evening out
b. Coffee - A coffee house is a great place to start a
conversation that can last anywhere from a few minutes to more
than an hour.
c. Lunch - I like knowing what to expect, and the beauty of a lunch date is that is has
a finite beginning and end.
4. How would you characterize your dating experiences over
the past year?
a. I love to date and have been on dates with at least a dozen
different people.
b. I haven't gone on many traditional dates, but have met lots
of fascinating
people in a variety of settings.
c. I've gone on several first dates and have had a great time,
but things haven't worked out in the long term.
Scoring: Add up the number of times you chose answer "a,"
answer "b," and answer "c." The letter you chose most often
corresponds to your style in the Dating Olympics:
A - Downhill Racer: You hurl down the proverbial dating
mountain with a devil-may-care attitude. Your goal isn't to
establish a long-term relationship; rather, your enjoyment comes
from the thrill of the chase. By trying to beat the clock to the
finish line, the dating game's Downhill Racer sometimes misses
the scenery along the way. By all means, enjoy the ride. But be
sure that you see the people you date as individuals.
B - Halfpipe Hopeful: Just like a snowboarder dropping
into the halfpipe, your approach to dating is laid back. You
value both substance and style, and take the time to get to know
your dates. Your bottom line, though, is having fun. It's true
that dates shouldn't be work; they should be fun. At the same
time, the tendency of Halfpipe Hopefuls to hang out and have a
good time can hurt their chances of building a solid long-term
relationship. There comes a time when you have to make a
commitment, or the good ones will get away.
C - Ice Dancer: An Olympic figure skater must control
every element of his or her program, and each movement is
carefully orchestrated. Your efforts to control your dating
experience can serve to protect you both emotionally and
physically, but you're a person, not a machine. Strong
boundaries are crucial for a successful dating experience, which
is why meeting for lunch can make for a perfect first date. Check
out lunchSpark (www.lunchspark.com), relax over lunch, and
you'll open up and allow yourself to shine.