Birthing Pains Of Child Adoption
So you've met the person who you want to spend the rest of your
life with. You get married, ride off into the sunset and live
happily ever after. Right?
Well perhaps "happily every after" is subjective and means
something different to different people. But whatever happens
after you ride off into the sunset and disappear into the
horizon, your married life will eventually have to make room for
the little pitter patter of tiny feet. Right?
The next day
Well there are quite a few married couples who realize that for
one reason or another, they cannot bear children together. Some
married couples try for years to get pregnant, try all the
fertility treatments (mainstream and alternative) and still come
up empty handed.
There are also some married couples who either married too late
or waited too long so they reach the stage of past child-bearing
age and suddenly, they feel they want a child. Then there are
still some couples who have their own children and yet they feel
the need to spread their joy and love further to other children
still.
How ever different these three scenarios are, there may come a
point in their lives when they will come across the life
altering question they need to ask themselves, "Am I ready to
adopt a child?"
The scarlet letter
Child adoption is a big step in a married couple's lives and may
be one of the biggest decisions they will have to make together
that have a long lasting impact in their lives. Having children
is a big responsibility in itself and child adoption brings with
it its own set of sensitivities.
For all the right reasons
If you a childless married couple who have come to the end of
their ropes in the hopes of conceiving, please take into
consideration that child adoption isn't necessarily the answer
to your problem. Continued unsuccessful attempts at trying
conceive can greatly strain a married couple's relationship and
it can test even the strongest of the strong.
At the point where you seem desperately grasping at straws, you
might think of adopting a child to keep the marriage together.
But think it through thoroughly because you are bringing in a
new life into yours and it wouldn't be fair to adopt under these
circumstances. Remember, adopting a child doesn't mean that all
your problems will be solved. Adding a new member to your
already chaotic relationship may even result in more harm than
good.
Child adoption is a big responsibility that has a huge potential
to further add love and fulfillment in a married couple's life
provided that they do so after they have considered all they
need to consider and make the necessary adjustments for it.
Will it work for you?
So you've come to a decision that you want to adopt a child. You
may be emotionally and mentally ready individually and as a
couple enough to embark on this path but are you ready in other
aspects?
First do some research and find out the requirements for child
adoption. Also, find out statistics like how quickly can you
expect to be able to find a child do adopt and bring home.
Finding these details out will help both of you manage
expectations.
Whatever you've been through to get to the point of wanting to
adopt, remember to not focus so much on the fact that you cannot
conceive your own children, instead, think of the parent-less
child you will be bringing into your loving home soon.