Believing In Yourself
When we start out life we are very much dependent on whomever it
is that is supporting us. Our belief system is conditioned from
a very early age. We eventually believe they will fulfill all
our needs and take care of us?forever. This does not happen. We
also love ourselves and feel we can do anything. Eventually, for
some of us, through our life experiences, we learn to be
skeptical in our ability to take care of ourselves or do the
things we need to do to get on with life. And we lose some of
that love of self. Our personal belief in self has been damaged
by someone or something.
Often we lose the ability to defend ourselves because we may not
trust our sense of what is going on around us or within us. We
do not pay attention to the warning signs of danger that we
learned in earlier life. Our self awareness and awareness of our
surroundings has become less important to us and we have lost
our sense of intuition that would normally identify a strange or
dangerous situation. Sometimes we have been beaten down so hard
that we will not stand up for our rights anymore, because we may
feel that we do not have any.
We feel that our rights have been taken away and therefore,
loosen our personal boundaries and emotional boundaries and do
not take heed to situations that may harm us. We lose the belief
in our ability to verbally and physically defend ourselves when
anyone starts intruding in our personal life. We do not care! We
do not have any self-respect anymore and mostly do not respect
anyone else. We do not take care of ourselves?do not care about
our personal safety?and do not care about our security in life.
They have no meaning?all because we have lost belief in
ourselves and our abilities.
Learning to bring that positive self belief back is not always
an easy task. You have to learn how to trust yourself again and
know that you can make right decisions about yourself and your
life. As much as a negative belief in yourself can be harmful, a
positive belief in yourself can be extremely rewarding and
powerful. You can start to develop positive things in your life
and re-build your self-worth. You can create a positive life
cycle for yourself.
When you start believing in yourself again, you start feeling
you have rights again; and you are far more likely to defend
yourself and do whatever it takes to stay safe, emotionally and
physically. You learn the difference between truth and fact. You
can believe that you can truly take care of yourself and still
understand the fact that you may not always be in the safest
situations to defend yourself adequately.
You learn that your beliefs have been developed by your sense of
the world, both real and imagined. You actually develop a model
of life that will keep you safe, emotionally and physically.
Beliefs are changeable. What we believed in at age 10 is
certainly not what we believe in at age 30.
You can take charge of your life and bring back three major
beliefs:
1. My self-respect is worth standing up for. 2. I deserve to
live and be safe. 3. I have the ability to keep myself safe.
When you fully believe in yourself and have reset your
boundaries, you have strengthened your self-worth and a personal
or physical attack becomes, once again, unacceptable to you. You
will become a determined, strong, responsible person and know
what you want that will keep you safe. You are much less likely
to let any emotional or physical abuse control your life and
understand that these things happen and are a fact of life. You
do not have to put up with that anymore. You can transform your
life.
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