Finding Proper Marriage Counselling
Before you sign up for marriage counselling make sure you
definetly need it because statistics have shown that up to 50%
of couples who have had marriage counselling end up in a
divorce. And a small percentage of couples actually benefited
from counselling.
If you're going to get your car fixed you'd usually ask your
friends who they use or if they could recommend someone. I for
one wouldn't trust a mechanic with my car especially if I its
worth a fair bit. You should have this type of attitude when it
comes to selecting a good marriage counsellor. If you have an
inexperienced mechanic you'll end up paying through your nose
because of the wrong things they'll recommend.
You should be cautious of marriage therapists because some are
inexperience and can often damage your relationship. If you
really need to see a marriage counsellor then here are a few
things you should find out before going for your first session.
What training do they have in dealing with marriage counselling?
Some marriage therapists are not been trained in dealing with
marriages and can often cause more harm than good.
How much experience does the therapist have with marriage
counselling? You'll want to find a counsellor who deals with
marriage issues often. Someone with more contact with married
couples will have more experience and knowledge when it comes to
dealing with your problem. This is one of the most important
things you can find out so make sure you do.
How successful is the counsellor in helping couples with their
issues and helping them stay in their marriage? Most therapists
won't have stats to show you but they'll try their best to
answer your question. If the therapist tells you that they'll do
their best to listen to you both until you can find a stepping
stone again than this is a therapist who will be there for you
and your marriage.
When searching for the right marriage counselling you'll need to
make sure you get some decent answers from them when you talk to
them. If they sound like they just want to solve your problem
then they won't be listening to both of you. A counsellor should
be there to listen and help assist you with your problem without
causing any damage to your marriage. I sincerely hope you find
the best possible marriage counsellor and stay happily married.