Blogging Etiquette
Have you ever thought about the reasons that blogging has become
so popular? Enter the word blog into any search engine,
and the results are overwhelming. The phenomenon known as
blogging has become one of the fastest growing features of the
internet. It's an advocate for free speech, a chance to imprint
our thoughts and - ultimately - our individual selves on that
vast unknown entity called cyberspace. By blogging we become
part of the internet. It may be a miniscule part, but our blogs
establish and affirm our presence in cyberspace.
My blog was born on 24 March 2005. I had no idea how the seed I
planted would grow, nor the direction it would follow. Today I
read through my first entries, and I see it hasn't changed
radically in the first ten months of its life. I think it's
become a bit more refined... but that's my humble opinion! The
inspiration for that first entry was the cell phone ring tone
advert on VH1, featuring the character called "Crazy Frog". Two
days later I wrote about Easter in Greece. I followed that with
a piece about reviewing on WDC. The fourth entry was about the
news channels on TV, and the final one spoke about Zimbabwe.
Looking at the beginning of my blog I see it's like a diary. The
first entries covered Michael Jackson's trial, Terri Schiavo,
Prince Rainier of Monaco and Zimbabwe's elections. I sit here,
amazed that all these things happened almost one year ago -
where has the time gone? And if it wasn't for my blog I wouldn't
have a record of the events and the way they made me feel at
that particular time. I suggest you all go back at look at the
first few entries in your blog. You'll probably see your writing
has, over time, become more confident and more streamlined. Mine
certainly has.
Blogs are representative of their writers. They reflect our
thoughts, our minds and our attitudes at a specific moment in
time. They are also a permanent record of the events at that
particular time. There only limit to a blog is your own mind -
how far are willing to let your mind go and how much of yourself
you are prepared to divulge? You can write about any subject
that interests you and take your writing in any direction.
Bottom line - how much of yourself are you willing to share with
the World Wide Web?
Which brings me to the most important feature of blogging - the
readers.
They are the reason for the rapid growth of the blogging
phenomenon. Without readers blogs would not exist - they'd be
diaries or personal journals kept under lock and key. The
comments and contributions to our entries feed the blog,
inspiring our own entries and helping it grow. I find the
feedback I receive encourages me to keep writing. The same
applies to the blogs I read and to which I contribute. I can't
tell you how many blogs have inspired one of my own entries.
Over time a blogger develops a fairly close relationship with
regular readers, and the way these relationships are conducted
are important if you want your blog to grow.
I recently read an entry in an offsite blog where a blogger's
entry claimed he didn't care about the kind of responses his
blog attracted. His reason: "the people contributing aren't
my kind of people." My answer - and I did actually post this -
was: "So why are you blogging? Keep a private journal if you
don't want or need interaction from other web users." I
stopped reading his blog after that, and when I checked
yesterday I saw he's still writing, but he's removed the
offensive entry!
Those who take the time to read a leave a comment in a blog are
people, whether we agree with their opinions or not. I know -
the difference is that we're interacting in cyberspace with a
screen replacing the face of an actual physical presence. But
that doesn't mean we have to lose our manners! Someone who's
read through an entry that's made enough of an impression upon
him or her to want to write a comment deserves some respect,
even if his or her opinion is contrary to our own. Think about
how you would answer that person if he or she was physically in
front of you before committing fingers to the keyboard and
pressing submit. Words typed and sent in anger are even
more damaging than the spoken word, because a record remains in
black and white for as long as the blogger chooses.
Let's put the shoe on the other foot for a moment, and consider
our response to an entry we find offensive. Perhaps it goes
against our moral, political or religious beliefs. It may also
be written in a way we personally find insulting. Instinctively
the first reaction is to fire off an angry, critical response -
but that's not necessarily the right action to take. Many a time
I've found myself wanting to respond immediately to an entry
containing an opinion contrary to mine, but I've managed to
restrain myself. Words spoken in the heat of the moment can be
very damaging, and in this case attack is not necessarily the
best form of defence. The chances of saying something you may
regret later are very high indeed, so I suggest you think about
what you want to say before responding. Ask yourself if the
words you want to write are something you'd say to a person
standing in front of you in a room full of bystanders. Remember
the blogger isn't the only person who will see your comment -
everyone reading the blog will know what you've said. And once
it's there you cannot take it back. Only the blogger can remove
your comment.
Conversely there should some respect afforded to the blogger. It
takes courage to share one's beliefs and deepest thoughts. My
husband often says: "consider the source". It's a good
guideline to use when reading blogs. We're all "victims" of our
own personal circumstance, products of different cultures,
ethics and traditions. We bring our different personalities and
beliefs to the world of blogging, which is one of the reasons
blogging is so exciting. My own blog is a link to people from
all over the world, and the fact that I would never be able to
interact with such a diverse group in my daily life makes
blogging a truly exciting experience... well, for or me anyway!
When I write a potentially inflammatory blog it takes me a
while, because I try to convey my own opinion in a frank and
honest manner, without offending those whose beliefs may be
contradictory to my own. It's not easy, and requires a lot of
tact and diplomacy - not to mention forethought! That's probably
why I don't do it very often...
I think my journalistic training has helped me restrain myself
when I want to reply to what I consider an inflammatory blog. I
was taught not to write about something until all the facts are
to hand. I'm not saying don't respond; I'm simply saying think
before you say anything. And if you really don't know what to
say then don't say anything. Why not leave a comment to that
effect? Or perhaps write an entry about how that particular
topic makes you feel. I've always lived by the adage: "It's
better to stay silent and appear a fool than to open one's mouth
and remove all doubt".
I find it's a rule that works well when blogging.