Should I Ask Her Out?
Okay, so you like this girl. You like her so much you want to
ask her out. The only problem is, she has a boyfriend. So you do
not. Then, fate happens and a miracle occurs. She broke up with
her boyfriend. Now, your friends are egging you to go and ask
her out. It would not hurt, they say. But you think otherwise.
Of course it would. So you sulk and wait and decide that you
will not ask her out. Or would you?
It is so confusing to have to decide which is which. Should the
right decision be to go ahead and ask or just wait it out?
In the words of a popular shoe brand, it really would not hurt
at all if you simply - just do it. Okay, so it would hurt. A
little. But, who ever got lethally hurt from a broken heart? So
what if you will be rejected? It may hurt yes, but the
experience will definitely make you stronger.
But how would you know if you will be rejected, unless you ask?
What if she says yes. Would not that be a surprise? And you
would not have known this if you haven't asked at all. So should
you? Of course you should.
Let us face it. It is not easy to be able to handle rejection.
Most men who have become successful are usually those who do not
take personally any rejection that comes to them. This life
principle is actually very simple. Sometimes, it is one's need
for drama that decision-making becomes a little bit complex.
If the girl you asked out says no. Accept it and move on. There
are a lot of fish in the sea, as the saying goes. This is a
whole lot better than not knowing at all.
Society has put a lot of emphasis on the ego. The ego is
something that, when paid too much attention to, could be a bit
distracting and self-defeating. Rejection only matters if you
think it matters.
Asking someone out could be extremely nerve racking. It is
definitely not easy. But asking someone out only becomes
extremely scary if you only have the sights set on yourself and
if you are so afraid to fail.
Failure is not easy. Rejection is not easy. But the most
glorious part in this process is your uncanny ability to be able
to move on despite the rejection. Relax. Usually, the reason you
get nervous is that you may have very little options or that you
are so in love with this woman that no one else is just as
worthy to be with you than her. So any chances of you being
rejected will definitely spell a little bit as being close to
end of the world. Again, it could not be emphasized more
clearly, relax.
The solution for this problem is simple, go out and gather more
options. One telephone number puts too much pressure on you to
get a girl's yes. Go ask another girl, that you like mind you,
and not just someone who is handing out her number for everyone
to see.
So if the first number does not go well, move on and settle to
dial that other number. Do not sweat the small stuff. Time is
more precious than wasting it on regret and all the coulda's,
wouda's and shouda's.
There is another solution to not let a potential rejection take
the best out of you. Why don't you go and ask someone out with
the expectation of being rejected. By this method, it saves you
from being attached to the result. By this way, you are actually
letting go of any potential outcome. You become therefore more
free, open and accepting of whatever life brings you.
Eventually, you are putting less pressure upon yourself to be
accepted, and you are playing by life's ear and is leading a
very stress-free life.
All in all, to be really honest, asking someone out on a date is
not a bed of roses. It is putting yourself down the line. You
are literally offering yourself up to the relationship gods for
slaughter. But wait. You are also opening yourself to a lot of
new experiences that could make you a better person.